When resistance is present there is usually a good reason to say yes and a good reason to say no. Or a good reason to do thing A and also a good reason to do thing B. Part of you wants it, part of you doesn’t.
And rather than be with all of those conflicting reasons and feelings and fears and desires, you push the whole thing away.
Resistance is all of these conflicting things coming together and you trying to squash the whole mess down so you can pretend it’s not there.
This is how a lot of creative dreams die.
Because squashing down that discomfort you’re feeling when you’re in resistance means also squashing down your precious little growing dream seedling.!
In order to not squash your little growing dream seedling, you have to learn to navigate your way through your inner world – through whatever fear and uncertainty are there to find the treasures (superpowers! dreams! gifts! wisdom!) that live inside of you.
This is the most important thing you can do.
Because those treasures are real and you need them.
(Also - when you’re doing this, everything else gets smoother, easier and simpler. Things just magically fall into place.)
This is what I teach in the Inner Critic Kit.
The technique we play with in the kit is a very effective resistance-melter.
Also a fear-melter and any-feeling-you’d-rather-not-experience-melter.
And even though we’re doing scary stuff, we’re not doing it in scary ways.
We’re activating the superpowers of creativity, play and imagination to make the whole thing less annoying and awkward and more fun and useful.
PS: A message from one of the students in the inner critic classroom:
Hello, my name is Sylvie and I am participating in Andrea’s “Giving My Inner Critic a New Job” e-course.
As I tried to contact my inner critic, thanks to the first meditation in the course, I was surprised to meet a little child that wanted to be protected. The inner voice that was so criticizing my way of being was just the “big brother” of this little child that wanted me to act as perfect as possible in order to stay safe.
The second time I used the meditation, I understood that the “Voice of the Reason”, as Andrea is calling it, was so hugely powerful inside me that I could not hear the child in me that wanted to play freely. So I’m using Andrea’s material to help both of these voices, my heart and my reason, begin to know each others and collaborate in full respect instead of always fighting.
This way of reacting to inner voices is totally new to me and feels like such a relief. I was used to arguing in my head for hours around the usual theme “I should do this but I don’t really want to”.
At last, I feel that I’ve found a method to deal with deep issues that are sometimes blocking me totally.
I know I can now move slowly forward, in my own rhythm, and discover what I’m here for, and how I can fulfill my dreams from the inside out.
I’m deeply thankful for Andrea for having made her powerful tools so fun to use, even though this is really deep stuff.