(Jamie is one of the first coaches I met online and has been a real inspiration to me. If you don’t know her yet I promise – you’ll love her.)
(This is from last week in my Year of Dreams Guided Journal + Colouring Collage Kit)
It’s always so fun and nourishing for me to participate in these parties and I think we need this kind of thing right now more than ever.
I’m still thinking a lot about how the online creativity/life coaching culture is developing and how I want to participate in it.
Right now my thoughts are just one big mess. This is always a part of the process for me – when I’m willing to be with the mess I tend to be able to move through it much faster.
But some ideas are starting to become more clear, like how much I want to hold onto what I see as the magic of what is possible for creative people to do online.
And how simple it really is to just stay away from all of that sleazy online business stuff.
And also a piece I don’t totally understand just yet that is pushing to me to share more of my own stories as I live with my dreams and figure out how make space to pursue new dreams.
I think it helps when we feel less alone on this path, and sharing our stories is a way of showing each other that we’re not alone.
Plus the people who are sharing their stories the loudest (or the ones who show up the most often through sponsored stories in my Facebook feed) are sharing stories of growth-growth-growth magic bullets and easy 3-step systems.
I want to see more real stories of living joyfully. Right-size over bigger-bigger-bigger and staying true to what’s in your own heart.
So that’s why I am excited to hang out at the Journal Party with you guys and Jamie Ridler today.
Jamie is one of those people who have been able to harness to possibilities of the internet to create creative communities without even the slightest sniff of manipulative sales tactics or sleaze.
As I said, Jamie is one of the first coaches I met before I started blogging or working online – like 8 years ago. In all that time I’ve seen her show up, every day, and offer her own unique brand of inspiration.
I know when people are starting out they want to know how to build an audience and that’s it: Show up. Offer the things you have to offer. Invite people to be a part of what you’re doing.
Instead of focusing on making a million dollars, try focusing on showing up a million times.
It’s so simple.
It’s just a lot of work – so much work that you need to be passionate about why you want to build this thing because it’s that passion will sustain you for the long road.
Connecting with kindred spirits along the way helps too.
Again – come hang out with us today!
Also – I’m getting married tomorrow.
And I know that the ceremony is important, or it is important to me anyway, but also the commitment has already been made. We’re in it. We are learning to live with each other. I am learning how to be a step parent.
This weekend I made a list of things that needed to be done around the loft. Like vacuuming and laundry and cleaning the bathroom and stuff.
I have never made such a list in my life.
I mean living alone for so long I clean up here and there when I feel like it, or else I clean up everywhere in a mad rush before people are coming over.
And I want us to share household stuff but I also want to not be comparing and measuring – how much did you do? How much did I do?
I’d like it to be more relaxed than that, I would like creating a loving and nourishing home to matter more than having clean floors.
But his parents are coming over for the first time (they live out of town) so I didn’t want to take any chances.
So I wrote the list.
And it was amazing – I felt less overwhelmed as soon as I saw it all written out.
And this is kind of funny – I didn’t have any paper to write the list on. I’d just gone through the last of our printer paper. All I had was this old sketchbook with cheap drawing paper in it, the paper was too thin for the markers I like to use so I had put it into my giveaway box.
So I wrote the list on this sketchbook and realised – oh this will really help make our life together smoother, having a book full of things we need to keep track of.
My first shared journal.
So I wrote the list and then we just worked through it – much faster than I thought we would.
Plus he scrubbed the grout in my shower with a toothbrush and bleach. I never do that.
And when it was time for me to vacuum downstairs I asked his youngest son to take my cat outside for a walk because the vacuum freaks him out. (All of his kids love my cat Starfish, who loves to be taken out for walks on his leash)
He was happy to take the cat out and you know what? He found an honest to goodness four leaf clover while he was out there.
Felt like a good omen for all of us.
PS: The price of the Creative Dream Circle is going up at the end of this week. I never want anyone to feel pressured to join, but if you’ve been thinking of joining I do want you to know about the price change.