Often people think their dream of finding that right partner is not, like, a real dream.
Like a real dream is something concrete that you can work towards: a solo show in an art gallery, a novel written, a trip around the world.
A real dream is a thing where you can take steps, work hard, and get there eventually.
Finding the right person seems to be a lot more about luck and just waiting for the right time and maybe going on a lot of shitty first dates.
Not to mention that sometimes wanting to find a partner can feel like an embarrassing thing to dream about.
But all dreams are valid. Your dreams are how your soul calls you towards your true self, your purpose and your most authentic life.
Your heart’s desires are to be taken seriously – following them is how you build your true, authentic life, it’s how you get into alignment with yourself.
JUDGING your dreams only leads to being disconnected from your own heart, which is an uncomfortable way to live.
But what do you actually DO when your dream is to find someone?
I mean you can’t actually control when or how or if you actually meet the right person. This is not the kind of dream you can really plan for…
But you CAN do things to make sure you are ready in case opportunity strikes, and of course being really truly ready can help make it easier for opportunity to find you.
You can work with it, just like you work with any dream.
You can sort through your own ambivalence and discomfort and fear and doubt. And in doing that you grow towards your true self, find more clarity and it dating does actually start to get easier.
The most common question I get about this is: should I go after my creative dream first, or my love dream first?
And the answer is that there is no answer.
It’s going to be different for everyone. But for most people – these dreams are linked. Remember: your dreams are how your soul calls you towards your true self, your purpose and your most authentic life.
You get to have a beautiful and fulfilling personal life and a beautiful and fulfilling professional life – in whatever way you want to define these for yourself.
I mean that can include loving the single life or enjoying dating different people or getting married or anything else.
No matter what your dream is – your dream will grow you.
In my case, pursuing my creative/professional dreams with gusto led me to grow into the person who could find her right partner. I had been single for over a decade and running the Creative Dream Incubator as my full time job for six and a half years when I got married to my soulmate in April 2017.
For others, finding their right partner gives them the support they need to go after their creative dreams.
For others, that love and support come from developing the right community around them and deepening their own self-love and self-care.
There is no one size fits all here.
The only rule is the same rule that applies to all dreams: follow your own heart.
Which is easier said that done, because it means you have to sort through the fears and limiting beliefs and grief piled up from love’s disappointments in your past so that you can hear your own heart clearly.
This is the challenge of having a dream and this is how your dream will grow you.
Let’s dive in and explore all of this together.
What If My Dream Is To Find A Relationship? Creative Dream Coaching Circle is happening live online on May 23.
I can’t guarantee to help you find your dream partner – no one can. But I can help you work through some of the “stuff” that comes up around this to make it easier for you to work with your dream of finding a partner.
And I’ll share my own story. After over a decade of being single, there was a moment when I felt things shift inside of me, when I knew I was ready. I met my partner about a few months after that.
In hindsight I can see that I nurtured that shift into happening by doing a few things that I’ll talk about on this call.
Plus we’ll talk about all the hard stuff that comes up in the process of looking for someone and how complicated this can all get.
My hope is that you’ll leave the call feeling uplifted and nourished and inspired to keep walking along your unique dream path.
About Creative Dream Coaching Circles:
Community. Advice. Ideas. Healing. Support. Cheering. Creative Dream Super-Fuel.
You’ll gather with me, and a group of creative kindred spirits, and we’ll work on making our dreams real together. It’s the kind of supportive creative community we all wish we had in our everyday lives.
I know I over-use this word, but there isn’t another way to say it: Creative Dream Coaching Circles are *magic*
We meet online via live, streaming video. You can type your questions to me and I’ll answer right there on the spot or you can come on the line we can chat (you will need a webcam for that option).
Each coaching circle has a specific topic. I’ll start by sharing some thoughts and ideas and then we’ll have lots of time for coaching, questions and exploring together.
Can’t make it to the live event? No problem!
All coaching circles will be recorded and you can even email me your questions ahead of time and listen to my answers in the recording.
The call is happening live online on May 23 at 1:00 pm (Central, North America)
Yes it will be recorded and you can even email me your questions ahead of time and listen to my answers in the recording.
The cost: Just $30 US a call (or free, for Creative Dream Circle members)