Spiritual Life Coaching For Creatives

These past few weeks I’ve been VERY MUCH NOT centered, grounded or present.

Given the fact that my Centered Grounded Present Coaching Group starts today, my judging self has been having a field day with this, of course.  Like how can I teach/share this stuff if I can’t manage to do it myself?

And I am, rightfully, critical of people who try to present themselves as gurus before they’ve even put in the time to achieve mastery…

But that’s not what’s happening here.

The path to a thing usually involves dealing with opposite of the thing.

Like the path to a dream is mostly about conquering fears and healing inner critics.

The path to getting centered, grounded and present involves bringing light, healing and transformations to the places where you struggle to get centered, grounded and present.

While I’ve been doing some heavy inner work, the outer stuff has looked pretty ridiculous: Netflix binges and getting irrationally upset when my husband leaves a mug on the coffee table or puts his dirty laundry on the floor instead of in the hamper.

This is not who I want to be and it’s not how I want to live and it’s not how I normally am.

But it was a part of my process of working through the stuff that keeps me stuck when it comes to getting MORE centered, grounded and present.

This is a profound process because of what happens when you become more centered, grounded and present.

Being centered, grounded and present connects you to your inner superpowers in a new way. And that changes things.

For me it’s been about a new dream coming up – one that feels so big I was afraid to admit I wanted it because of how awful it would feel to go after it and fail.

So I have been struggling with that.

But that wasn’t even the whole thing!

Once I worked through the process of accepting what I really want and claiming this new bigger dream – another new dream came along right behind it!

Another big dream that made me feel too small.

This is because when I am centered, grounded and present I can see my actual possibilities – and they are bigger than what my not-as-centered-grounded-or-present-self can see.

I am standing taller. More deeply rooted and more magically connected my full spiritual and creative potential.

And I am going out to buy lots of paint. I am painting a mural in my home to celebrate my new dreams.

The difficult journey to get here was more than worth it.

It’s like Rumi said:

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

I mean I think the use of the word merely is pretty hilarious.

But yeah – this is how it works with everything. The universe provides a steady abundant flow that we can dip into any time we want. We just have to tear down our inner barriers to allow what we want to take root and live within us.

Want to join me in this?

Centered Grounded Present Coaching Group starts today!

This is a three week online coaching group with 2 goals:

  1. To make space to process the stuff that keeps you stuck so you can let it go.
  2. To help you go into the holidays and the new year feeling more centered, grounded and present.

It’s like a fresh slate for you and your dreams. The qualities of Centered Grounded and Present combine to create a state of READINESS for moving forward with your dream.

Together we’ll get centered, grounded and present so we can show up for 2019 sparkling like the jewels we are!

This is what’s included:

We’ll have three coaching calls on Zoom (happening on Monday November 5, 12 and 19th at 1:00 Central). This is where we’ll make space and do magic together. I’ll lead you through alchemy processes to invite these qualities in and then you’ll work through whatever comes up for you in that work – so each person in the group will be on their unique journey within the supportive space of our circle.

Yes the calls will be recorded and after the first call you can send your questions in ahead of time so I’ll address them on the calls if you can’t attend live.

We’ll have a private forum (open for three weeks only) to share and get support outside of the calls.

And you’ll get a downloadable guided meditation for getting centered, grounded and present – keep it on your phone so you’ve always got it with you.

This is how registration works:

This is free for everyone who is a member of the Creative Dream Circle.

If you’re not a member of the Circle you can join Centered Grounded Present for $99 US. 

This will give you access to the Coaching Group PLUS everything in the Creative Dream Circle for 30 days: from Nov 5, 2018 to Dec 5, 2019.

Centered Grounded Present is a 21 day program – you get an extra 9 days at the end because transformative work changes things, often in unexpected ways. So this way you have some time in the Circle with lots of classes, recourses and support to work through whatever may come up for you.

Please read the Coaching Group Guidelines + Policies carefully for all of the details. In order to create and maintain the container that allows deep transformative work to happen, all participants must read + agree to the Guidelines + Policies. And so: these policies are non-negotiable.

>>> Ready to join us?

Register here. 

 

I’d love to have you in the group,

Andrea

I am terrified to admit what I really want.

Last week I was journaling and I noticed that when I tried to admit what I *really* want, like just to myself in my journal, my mind would jump over to this place of listing all the reasons I can’t have it. Like:

Well yeah I want ______ but I don’t want to do do a bunch of annoying work to get it.

I would be so happy if I had _____ but that would mean I would have to _____ and that would suck.

I wish I could just ______ but to do that I need to ______ and that never works.

So instead of staying with the first part of the sentence, the part where I’m connecting with the joy and magic of my dream, I leap into the second part where I’m focusing on the parts I don’t want.

I’m also making about stories about what I have to do to get what I want.

And making a whole pile of excuses for myself to not even try.

Because admitting that I want what I want feels too vulnerable right now.

What I want feels far away and impossible. So I jump over into the excuses to save myself the discomfort of being in that scary vulnerable place.

But I really want it. So I keep going back to it, then jumping back into the excuses, over and over.

Something needs to give.

I don’t know WHAT needs to give. And I feel like I should know because this is what I do, I help people move towards dreams that are so vulnerable they are afraid to even say it out loud. I mean this is my job! Why am I so lost?

So put on my teacher’s hat which gives me a new perspective.

The path isn’t just non-linear it’s non-directional – you’re floating in Dream Space sweetheart be gentle with yourself.

If you already had all the answers that would mean you’re doing something you’ve done before. To grow beyond where you’ve been you’ve got to be in this space of not-knowing.

Which means: you are *exactly* in the right place.

And it’s in this place of excruciating vulnerability and feeling lost and impossible about your dream where you’re going  to build the path.

This is how it works babe.

I take off my teacher’s hat and sit with that.

Everything feels re-arranged in my mind.

Now, I can admit to myself that I want it. And I feel those excuses falling away, making space for new possibilities.

What’s changed?

I’m able to hold my dream without having to know what I’ll have to do to make it happen. I’m willing to be with the truth of how I feel: the truth is I want this thing.

My desire for it has nothing to do with my lack of knowing how to make it happen or my fear that I am not able to make it happen.

I have permission to not know how to make it happen. I have permission to feel how I feel and want what I want.

Yup this dream still feels scary. I worry I’m going to have to step far out of my comfort zone for this one. But that worry is not so excruciating that I can’t admit to myself what I want.

Progress.

Some advice if you’re in this boat too:

Being terrified to admit to your dream means you’re not giving yourself enough space to feel your feelings around your dream.

So give yourself some space to make room for your feelings, all of them: the discomfort, the vulnerability, the fear, the excitement, the love you have for your dream.

Once you make space to feel that excruciating vulnerability of it you’ll have space to feel the magic and joy of it. You’ll be able to settle into your dream.

This doesn’t mean your dream will just magically come true for you.

But it does mean you’ll be a position to start working/playing with it.

Want some help with this?

Join me for Centered. Grounded. Present. We start on Monday!

This is a three week online coaching group with 2 goals:

  1. To make space to process whatever makes it hard to be centered, grounded and present
  2. To help you go into the holidays and the new year feeling more centered, grounded and present.

Give yourself some space to process your fears and uncertainties you’ll have space to feel the magic and joy of your dream.

I mean – just having a dream is so vulnerable! I’ve been a dreamer all my life, and a professional full-time dreamer for eight years and I STILL feel terrified when new dreams come to me.

This is how dreams work. They are here to grow us and that growth process is scary sometimes.

So let’s take some time to process all of this together because the only way out is through.

Together we’ll get centered, grounded and present so we can make space to work through whatever we need to work though at this time.

The uncomfortable feelings that come up around a dream FEEL SO BIG but it’s usually easier than we think to move through them – when we’re able to really make space for them. That’s what this group will help you do.

I planned this for November so that we could be in a position to really enjoy the holidays and start the new year feeling clear and ready to make magic happen.

This is what’s included:

We’ll have three coaching calls on Zoom (happening on Monday November 5, 12 and 19th at 1:00 Central). This is where we’ll make space and do magic together. I’ll lead you through alchemy processes to invite these qualities in and then you’ll work through whatever comes up for you in that work – so each person in the group will be on their unique journey within the supportive space of our circle.

Yes the calls will be recorded and after the first call you can send your questions in ahead of time so I’ll address them on the calls if you can’t attend live.

We’ll have a private forum (open for three weeks only) to share and get support outside of the calls.

And you’ll get a downloadable guided meditation for getting centered, grounded and present – keep it on your phone so you’ve always got it with you.

This is how registration works:

This is free for everyone who is a member of the Creative Dream Circle.

If you’re not a member of the Circle you can join Centered Grounded Present for $99 US. 

This will give you access to the Coaching Group PLUS everything in the Creative Dream Circle for 30 days: from Nov 5, 2018 to Dec 5, 2019.

Centered Grounded Present is a 21 day program – you get an extra 9 days at the end because transformative work changes things, often in unexpected ways. So this way you have some time in the Circle with lots of classes, recourses and support to work through whatever may come up for you.

Please read the Coaching Group Guidelines + Policies carefully for all of the details. In order to create and maintain the container that allows deep transformative work to happen, all participants must read + agree to the Guidelines + Policies. And so: these policies are non-negotiable.

>>> Ready to join us?

Register here. 

Have a question? Use the contact form on this page to send me an email.

I would love to have you in the group,

Centered. Grounded. Present. We start Nov 5.

IMAGE: Centered Grounded Present
Join us for Centered. Grounded. Present.

This is a three week online coaching group with 2 goals:

  1. To make space to process the hard stuff so you can let it go.
  2. To help you go into the holidays and the new year feeling more centered, grounded and present.

When you give yourself some space to process your fears, uncertainties or whatever else may you holding you back – then you make space to feel the magic and joy of your dream.

This is how dreams work.

They are here to grow us and that growth process is scary sometimes – our dreams need us to face the thing that we least want to face.

The only way out is through.

Together we’ll get centered, grounded and present so we can make space to work through whatever we need to work though at this time.

The uncomfortable feelings that come up around a dream FEEL SO BIG but it’s usually easier than we think to move through them. That’s what this group will help you do.

I planned this for November so that we could clear the clutter before the end of the year and start the new year feeling ready for our brightest possibilities.

This is what’s included:

We’ll have three coaching calls on Zoom (happening on Monday November 5, 12 and 19th at 1:00 Central). This is where we’ll make space and do magic together. I’ll lead you through alchemy processes to invite these qualities in and then you’ll work through whatever comes up for you in that work – so each person in the group will be on their unique journey within the supportive space of our circle.

Yes the calls will be recorded and after the first call you can send your questions in ahead of time so I’ll address them on the calls if you can’t attend live.

We’ll have a private forum (open for three weeks only) to share and get support outside of the calls.

And you’ll get a downloadable guided meditation for getting centered, grounded and present – keep it on your phone so you’ve always got it with you.

 

This is how registration works:

This is free for everyone who is a member of the Creative Dream Circle.

If you’re not a member of the Circle you can join Centered Grounded Present for $99 US. 

This will give you access to the Coaching Group PLUS everything in the Creative Dream Circle for 30 days: from Nov 5, 2018 to Dec 5, 2019.

Centered Grounded Present is a 21 day program – you get an extra 9 days at the end because transformative work changes things, often in unexpected ways. So this way you have some time in the Circle with lots of classes, recourses and support to work through whatever may come up for you.

Please read the Coaching Group Guidelines + Policies carefully for all of the details. In order to create and maintain the container that allows deep transformative work to happen, all participants must read + agree to the Guidelines + Policies. And so: these policies are non-negotiable.

>>> Ready to join us?

Register here. 

Have a question? Use the contact form on this page to send me an email.

 

I would love to have you in the group,

Yesterday I took a nap at 9:30 am.

I am a morning person. I do usually bound out of bed excited to start a new day, that is a major benefit of being self-employed doing the things you love most.

But yesterday I could not get moving. Everything I tried to do felt wrong. I felt heavy, like I was moving through concrete.

By 9:30 am all I could do was take a nap. VERY unusual for me.

I actually lay in bed and meditated until I fell asleep, which felt amazing. And I woke up feeling clearer.

I could see how hard it was to get to work on my creative projects when I had so much on my mind and in my heart. Climate change and the rise of far-right politics. Children being kept in cages. The Supreme Court of Canada giving the government permission to break the treaties…

It’s not just on my mind there are so many heavy feelings to process around everything that’s happening in the world right now.

And those heavy feelings make it hard to get in touch with our creativity and our dreams.

But we need our creativity and our dreams to lead us through this. Making space to process all of these heavy feelings so we can work through them is vital right now.

Yesterday I was able to meditate and process most of the morning. Then I could get back in touch with my creativity and had a productive afternoon moving my dream projects forward.

This is the miracle of Inner Work.

I know I’m really lucky to have the time and space in my schedule to do that. But right now we ALL need to figure out how to make time for this. That’s why I am doing this:


Centered. Grounded. Present.

This is a three week online coaching group with 2 goals:

  1. To make space to process the hard stuff so you can let it go.
  2. To help you go into the holidays and the new year feeling more centered, grounded and present.

Let’s clear the clutter in your inner world so you can step into your brightest possibilities in 2019.

Us sensitive creative souls tend to pick up and hold onto the energies that are floating around out there.

There are a lot of gifts in being sensitive and empathic – but right now it’s pretty much a recipe for overwhelm.

So let’s take some time to process all of this because the only way out is through.

By making space to really be with everything that’s going on inside you right now, you allow it to move through you. You process it and then let it go so you can create clearer space for yourself to step into the new year full of possibilities and magic.

So let’s get centered, grounded and present so we can show up for 2019 sparkling like the jewels we are!

This is what’s included:

We’ll have three coaching calls on Zoom (happening on Monday November 5, 12 and 19th at 1:00 Central). This is where we’ll make space and do magic together. I’ll lead you through alchemy processes to invite these qualities in and then you’ll work through whatever comes up for you in that work – so each person in the group will be on their unique journey.

Yes the calls will be recorded and after the first call you can send your questions in ahead of time so I’ll address them on the calls if you can’t attend live.

We’ll have a private forum (open for three weeks only) to share and get support outside of the calls.

And you’ll get a downloadable guided meditation for getting centered, grounded and present – keep it on your phone so you’ve always got it with you.

This is how it works:

This is free for everyone who is a member of the Creative Dream Circle. So if you’re already a member check your email for details.

If you’re not a member, you can join Centered Grounded Present for $99 US. This will give you access to the Coaching Group PLUS everything in the Creative Dream Circle for 30 days: from Nov 5, 2018 to Dec 5, 2019.

Centered Grounded Present is a 21 day program – you get an extra 9 days at the end because transformative work changes things, often in unexpected ways. So this way you have some time in the Circle with lots of classes, recourses and support to work through whatever may come up for you.

Please read the Coaching Group Guidelines + Policies carefully for all of the details. In order to create and maintain the container that allows deep transformative work to happen, all participants must read + agree to the Guidelines + Policies. And so: these policies are non-negotiable.

>>> Ready to join us? Register here. 

Getting Angry Is A Part Of Your Dream Path Too

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My husband and I are getting winter tires put on our car.

(Yes – I got rid of my car and became a cyclist 4 years ago. Then when I got married my husband and I bought a car together – he uses it most of the time.)

My husband needs the car for his job as a social worker, so we called around to find someone who could book an appointment in advance, first thing in the morning, so he could just come into work 1 hour late and then skip lunch.

The car guy said for sure he could be done in an hour. But when he got to the shop they said they didn’t have an appointment, and that the car would be in the shop all day.

I was up super early that morning and was at Starbucks. I’d already done some really great brainstorming/planning, and was just chatting with a friend about some work stuff and getting ready to crack open my laptop and get caught up on some admin work.

That’s when my husband called to let me know that the shop was saying we didn’t have an appointment so it would take them all day to do the tires. So I agreed to bring my husband my mom’s car (my parents are away right now) so he could get to work.

Then I sat there, in a huff. I mean this is hardly the end of the world, but it did put a wrench in my plans and I was frustrated.

Of course it’s not a big deal, so I tried to just blow it off.  But as I kept talking with my friend I noticed I was feeling more and more uncomfortable.

I was angry.

Not so much about my schedule getting a little messed up but more about how this person did not honour the agreement we made – that’s a trigger for me.

It’s ok to be angry when you’re angry.

I mean it’s ok to not be angry too.

But if you are angry then it’s ok to feel angry – to not brush it off, but to be with it and listen to it.

So I admitted to my friend that I still felt angry about the mechanic. This gave my anger some space and legitimacy. And almost instantly I knew – I needed to stand up for myself.

So I phoned the car guy and let him know I had made the appointment in advance and that I expected it to be honoured.

The mechanic agreed, at that point he couldn’t still get the tires finished by the time that was originally promised, but he said he could have it done by 10am.

I hung up the phone, took a deep breath, and felt much better. The anger was gone.

The anger was there as a sign that I needed to stand up for myself. That I couldn’t allow the car guy to break a deal with me without saying anything.

Anger is often a sign/message that comes with a burst of energy that allows us to act on the message.

When we use anger in that way – it’s very helpful! One of the most helpful emotions!

But people rarely use it this way.

Often, when you think you’re acting out of anger what you’re really doing is acting out of your own resistance to feeling angry.

That’s when you fly off the handle – the anger that comes up is so uncomfortable for you that you try to throw it onto something/someone else.

You’re just trying to get rid of the uncomfortable feeling you’re having.  But what you end up doing – lashing out just to try to get rid of the feeling inside you – is just making things worse.

Then ager gets blamed!

But it wasn’t anger that made you lash out like that – it was your resistance to feeling your feelings.

When you can simply feel your feelings then you can get the message/meaning in your feeling. Then you can find the gift in it.

THEN you have the power to act differently – and that changes everything.

Notice how my husband was not angry about the car thing. He was irritated, but let it go once we had a solution. I was angry.

This is what it means to be triggered.

Being triggered means your inner wounds have been activated.

Maybe my husband wasn’t triggered because he wasn’t the one who made the appointment. Maybe it was because he doesn’t care if some car guys keeps his promises or not. He would say that he has bigger things to worry about.

I was triggered. It means a great deal to me that people keep their agreements with me, so this is the kind of thing that triggers me.

The thing about being triggered is that it’s a gift. There is always something in it that you can use for your own healing and growth.

Of course it never feels that way in the moment.

The example I’m sharing is a pretty small trigger. I was feeling angry and in a huff but it wasn’t out of control or anything.

Sometimes we are so triggered that we can’t handle our feelings and it takes everything we’ve got to not fly off the handle, and go into that reactive mode where we do things we later regret.

Those triggers are where we find the BIG gifts.

We’re doing a group coaching call on What To Do When You’re Triggered in the Creative Dream Circle on November 20.

I want to go speak in depth about handling large and small triggers and how to find the gifts in them.

This is an important topic because when you can handle your triggers you can find the gifts in them – which always serve your healing and personal growth.

So I’ll have more to share on the call, but we’ll have plenty of space for people in attendance to ask questions.

While it’s great to be on the call live, I think the recording of this one will be a real gift – to be able to come to it as a source of healing and support for when you’re right in the discomfort of being triggered.

This call will only be available to members of the Creative Dream Circle – find out more + join us here.

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De-mystifying the process of transformation.

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The process of transformation is so fascinating and mysterious!

I would like to de-mystify some parts of it, by creating a series of case studies so you can look more deeply into the nuts and bolts of how it works.

The case studies will be free to access both on my blog and in the Dream Lab (my free e-course).

Each case study will focus on one very specific issue. Something like:

  • I don’t know what my dream is.
  • I don’t know what to do next to move towards my dream.
  • My dream seems impossible but I don’t want to give up.
  • I’m too scared to _____ (start a blog, ask for money for my work, start painting again, make that big move) but deep down I really want to do it.
  • I have to choose between a few different things and I just don’t know which one to choose.

You are invited to be a part of this, to help me create a case study about an issue/obstacle which you are currently facing.

Here’s how it works:

  1. You try the practice that I teach in the Dream Lab (we’re going to work from this practice in the coaching session, so you need to be a little familiar with it first).
  2. You fill in the application, letting me know what your dream is and where you’re stuck.
  3. If your application is selected, I will get back to you and let you know how to book your free session with me.
  4. We meet on Skype (your choice: video or audio only) and do a session to transform the thing you want to transform.
  5. I write up case notes and share them, with the recording of our session, with you and everyone else in the Dream Lab and on my blog

(If you are worried about privacy we can give you an assumed name. If you’re working on a dream of building your creative business, we can include your name and website so people can find out more about you)

I know these case studies will help tremendously!

When you are in that place of feeling stuck it’s amazing to be able to witness the process of someone getting un-stuck. There is a healing that is transmitted in that process of witnessing.

Because, like I always say in my classes, this isn’t math! There is no 2+2=4. There is no no-fail three step process. Or more eloquently stated:

“If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it’s not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That’s why it’s your path.”

Joseph Campbell

Path-making is complex but the only path that leads to your dream is the one you make yourself.

Instead of offering easy three step systems, what I can offer are stories and possibilities which you can use in your own path-making. So I see these case studies being of equal benefit to the people being coached and to the people listening.

Sounds like something you want to be a part of?

The application process is in the right here in the case studies section of the Dream Lab.

You need your Dream Lab login to access it: if you have not registered for Dream Lab you can do that for free right here, if you need your login details re-sent to you you can do that from this page)

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What if my dream is to find a relationship?

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What if my dream is to find a relationship?

Often people think their dream of finding that right partner is not, like, a real dream.

Like a real dream is something concrete that you can work towards: a solo show in an art gallery, a novel written, a trip around the world.

A real dream is a thing where you can take steps, work hard, and get there eventually.

Finding the right person seems to be a lot more about luck and just waiting for the right time and maybe going on a lot of shitty first dates. 

Not to mention that sometimes wanting to find a partner can feel like an embarrassing thing to dream about.

But all dreams are valid. Your dreams are how your soul calls you towards your true self, your purpose and your most authentic life.

Your heart’s desires are to be taken seriously – following them is how you build your true, authentic life, it’s how you get into alignment with yourself.

JUDGING your dreams only leads to being disconnected from your own heart, which is an uncomfortable way to live.

But what do you actually DO when your dream is to find someone?

I mean you can’t actually control when or how or if you actually meet the right person. This is not the kind of dream you can really plan for…

But you CAN do things to make sure you are ready in case opportunity strikes, and of course being really truly ready can help make it easier for opportunity to find you.

You can work with it, just like you work with any dream.

You can sort through your own ambivalence and discomfort and fear and doubt. And in doing that you grow towards your true self, find more clarity and it dating does actually start to get easier.

The most common question I get about this is: should I go after my creative dream first, or my love dream first?

And the answer is that there is no answer.

It’s going to be different for everyone. But for most people – these dreams are linked. Remember: your dreams are how your soul calls you towards your true self, your purpose and your most authentic life.

You get to have a beautiful and fulfilling personal life and a beautiful and fulfilling professional life – in whatever way you want to define these for yourself.

I mean that can include loving the single life or enjoying dating different people or getting married or anything else.

No matter what your dream is – your dream will grow you.

In my case, pursuing my creative/professional dreams with gusto led me to grow into the person who could find her right partner. I had been single for over a decade and running the Creative Dream Incubator as my full time job for six and a half years when I got married to my soulmate in April 2017.

For others, finding their right partner gives them the support they need to go after their creative dreams.

For others, that love and support come from developing the right community around them and deepening their own self-love and self-care.

There is no one size fits all here.

The only rule is the same rule that applies to all dreams: follow your own heart.

Which is easier said that done, because it means you have to sort through the fears and limiting beliefs and grief piled up from love’s disappointments in your past so that you can hear your own heart clearly.

This is the challenge of having a dream and this is how your dream will grow you.

Let’s dive in and explore all of this together.

What If My Dream Is To Find A Relationship? Creative Dream Coaching Circle is happening live online on May 23.

I can’t guarantee to help you find your dream partner – no one can. But I can help you work through some of the “stuff” that comes up around this to make it easier for you to work with your dream of finding a partner.

And I’ll share my own story.  After over a decade of being single, there was a moment when I felt things shift inside of me, when I knew I was ready. I met my partner about a few months after that.

In hindsight I can see that I nurtured that shift into happening by doing a few things that I’ll talk about on this call.

Plus we’ll talk about all the hard stuff that comes up in the process of looking for someone and how complicated this can all get.

My hope is that you’ll leave the call feeling uplifted and nourished and inspired to keep walking along your unique dream path.

About Creative Dream Coaching Circles:

Community. Advice. Ideas. Healing. Support. Cheering. Creative Dream Super-Fuel.

You’ll gather with me, and a group of creative kindred spirits, and we’ll work on making our dreams real together. It’s the kind of supportive creative community we all wish we had in our everyday lives.

I know I over-use this word, but there isn’t another way to say it: Creative Dream Coaching Circles are *magic*

We meet online via live, streaming video. You can type your questions to me and I’ll answer right there on the spot or you can come on the line we can chat (you will need a webcam for that option).

Each coaching circle has a specific topic. I’ll start by sharing some thoughts and ideas and then we’ll have lots of time for coaching, questions and exploring together.

Can’t make it to the live event? No problem!

All coaching circles will be recorded and you can even email me your questions ahead of time and listen to my answers in the recording.

The call is happening live online on May 23 at 1:00 pm (Central, North America)

Yes it will be recorded and you can even email me your questions ahead of time and listen to my answers in the recording.

The cost: Just $30 US a call (or free, for Creative Dream Circle members)

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How To Grow Your Dreams When You’re surrounded by Dream Doubters and Negative Nellies

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How To Grow Your Dreams When You’re surrounded by Dream Doubters and Negative Nellies

You want the people closest to you to support you in pursuing your dreams.

But what if they don’t?

It’s one of those things that a lot of dreamers feel alone in – but it’s actually really common.

Personally, I have experienced a lack of support as “external evidence” of all the things my inner critic was saying – I’m not good enough, I’m not ready, it will never happen anyway so why bother?

It’s not fun!

It can be really easy to let it derail you from your dreams – like every time you try to step towards your dreams you end up stepping into all these hurt feelings so why bother?

But that’s not what you want.

You want to be free to live in a way that feels true for you, which includes having space to pursue your dreams.

You know how I always say that facing the obstacles will grow you?

This is definitely one of those times.

This lack of support can feel like an impossible situation but it’s not impossible and working through it will grow you.

It will grow your faith in yourself and your determination to make your dream real.

It will show you just how capable you are to do the things that need to be done to give your dream some space to grow.

If you’re in this situation there are a few things you can do that will help.

One way to approach this is to just let your hurt feelings stew and marinate and turn into resentment and anger until you can just blow up at the person and then go after your dreams in a cloud of anger and “I’ll show you” energy.

Not super effective but for some people that is the only option.

What I would suggest is to take a gentler and more direct approach – because the person who is not being supportive of you didn’t just decide to be a jerk about your dream for no reason.

Maybe they’re afraid to see you take a risk. Maybe they don’t want you to get hurt. Maybe they’re embarrassed about your dream because they’re embarrassed about their dream.

Maybe they’re so uncomfortable about their own dreams that they don’t want to face that discomfort so they don’t want to talk about dreams. Maybe they just don’t want things to change.

There are a lot of reasons why people have a hard time supporting other people in going after their dreams.

So treat it gently. Be mindful that this person’s lack of support probably stems from their own hurt/scared places inside of them.

AND be mindful of the fact that you get to choose to pursue your dreams. No one can actually stop you from that.

So get clear with yourself about what you are and are not willing to compromise on.

I mean when I say that you get to choose to pursue your dreams, I’m not encouraging you to abandon your children to run off to Vegas to become a showgirl.

I’m saying there’s a way to make some space in your life for the sparkle and magic that you crave.

And then you can tend to the magic and sparkle while you tend to the other parts of your life as well.

And then grow it all into something that feels more true to you.

That’s what all dreams are at their core – your soul calling you towards your truth.

You can trust your dream. Moving towards your truth is not going to ruin your life-  even though some of the people closest to you may be afraid of exactly that.

So once you’ve spent some time deciding where you are and are not willing to compromise – well you might not have a problem anymore.

I mean it really depends on what your specific situation is.

Once you’ve spent some time thinking about where you are and are not willing to compromise, you might realise that you just need to start spending 15 minutes a day writing your manuscript and that it doesn’t matter if this person has a negative attitude about it.

Or you might need to hide certain things from certain people. Or learn about energy work to visualize “deflecting” their less-than-helpful comments about your dream so they can’t get you down.

You may need to just find the determination to pursue your dreams regardless of a lack of support. (Because your dream needs you, it doesn’t need anyone else)

Or you may need to work out a deal with this person to start making some small changes in your life.

Sometimes exploring what you are and are not willing to compromise on leads to you needing to have a discussion with the person who is not being supportive about how you feel and what you need.

Whatever happens, if you keep exploring you’re going to find a way to work this out so you can start growing your dream.

I know it’s hard. But no matter who isn’t supporting you or how you feel about it – you can’t let it stop you.

When I started doing my creativity workshops my co-workers would laugh at me when I talked about it at work.

When I decided to quit that job and pursue the Creative Dream Incubator full time, my parents wished I would reconsider because they wanted me to be safe and have enough money to take care of myself.

It’s normal for the people around you to not support your dreams, especially in the beginning.

This is just one of those things you’re going to have to overcome on the way to making your dream real.

Your dream is YOURS. Like – it picked you for a reason. It showed itself to you. It didn’t show itself to your parents, spouse, friends, co-workers and neighbours.

They just can’t see it yet – and that doesn’t mean anything about how viable your dream actually is.

Unfortunately a lack of support is one of those things that almost everyone has to overcome – which is also fortunate because it means I have a lot of experience helping people overcome it!

So let’s explore this together in more depth:

Creative Dream Coaching Circle: How To Grow Your Dreams When You’re surrounded by Dream Doubters and Negative Nellies

The call is happening live online on Tuesday, April 18 at 1:00 pm (Central, North America)

Yes it will be recorded and you can even email me your questions ahead of time and listen to my answers in the recording.

Community. Advice. Ideas. Healing. Support. Cheering. Creative Dream Super-Fuel.

Gather with me, and a group of creative kindred spirits, and we’ll work on making our dreams real together.

You’ll get honest advice and feedback about what you need to be doing to make your dreams really happen.

And space to be real about how hard it is sometimes, and how amazing it is at other times.

It’s the kind of supportive creative community we all wish we had in our everyday lives.

I know I over-use this word, but there isn’t another way to say it: Creative Dream Coaching Circles are *magic*

HOW COACHING CIRCLES WORK:

We meet online via live, streaming video. You can type your questions to me and I’ll answer right there on the spot or you can come on the line we can chat (you will need a webcam for that option).

Each coaching circle has a specific topic. I’ll start by sharing some thoughts and ideas and then we’ll have lots of time for coaching, questions and exploring together.

Can’t make it to the live event? No problem!

All coaching circles will be recorded and you can even email me your questions ahead of time and listen to my answers in the recording.

The cost: Just $25 US a call (or free, for Creative Dream Circle members)

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Does your day job get in the way of your dream?

 

Most people who have built their own thing did it while working full time for someone else.

I mean – you have to pay the bills. Very few of us have enough money to fund our dreams without working, it’s just a fact of life.

But don’t let the facts keep you from your dream.

Just because you have to have a job right now does not mean that you can’t stay connected to your dream full time.

You can have a boring or crappy job and still be excited and inspired about your dream! And when you do this – you generate more energy for your dream.

And then you get to leave work feeling energized and excited to work on your dream.

When you don’t stay connected to your dream, you tend to leave work feeling tired and resentful about not having enough time for your dream. And then you don’t have the energy to work on your dream… and you make no progress…. and you get more tired and resentful.

It doesn’t have to be this way. You can have your job AND your dream.

You really, absolutely, totally, do not need to wait until you’re ready to quit your job before you can have that joy of being connected to your dream.

I promise.

And of course this works for people who don’t have day jobs too! No matter what you do all day, doing it while feeling connected to your dream makes it better.

So let’s do this!

The Creative Dream Coaching Circle: Staying In Touch With Your Dream While At Your Day Job is happening live online via streaming video on Tuesday, March 21 at 1:00 pm (Central, North America).

(And yes it will be recorded so you don’t have to be there live.  You can even email me your question ahead of time and I’ll make sure to talk about your specific situation during the call)

I’ll walk you through the process I use stay connected with my dream and you’ll have a chance to practice it right there on the call.

I’ll talk about little things I did to help me stay connected to, inspired by and excited about my dream while working at my day job.  Plus we’ll brainstorm together to come up with even more ways.

And we’ll have time for coaching you through the places where you get stuck with this and answering your questions.

The cost: $0 or $25.

This call is free for all Creative Dream Circle members. (If you are a member, check the weekly emails I send out for a link to get all the details for this call)

If you’re not a member you can join us just for this call for $25 US.

>>> Reserve your spot now.

I am so looking forward to exploring this with you!

Creative Planning + Project Management Call is tomorrow

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You want a plan that makes you excited to bounce out of bed in the morning and get to work, yes?

Or, at the very least, you want to feel like you know what you’re doing.

Because the curse of creativity is also the gift of creativity: an abundance of amazing ideas. And the creative mind which comes up with all of these ideas tends to have a difficult time corralling them into finished projects.

I love this idea but what do I DO? How do I plan? What do I need to do to make sure I get the work done this time?

You want to have enough of a plan to give you the direction and support you need, but you also want enough freedom to make space for the magic to happen. Finding that balance can be tricky, to put it mildly.

You want to believe in yourself, your project and your creative voice.

But sometimes the planning process itself can be a challenge, I mean there is nothing like planning to step out of your comfort zone to wake up your inner critics!

And then you’re tangling with self-doubt instead of drawing up a plan. And you wind up just stuck.

We’ve all been there.

Tomorrow’s call on Creative Planning + Project Management we’ll explore this together.  You’ll get:

 

Clarity on where planning mishaps come from and what to do about them. Plus a healing process for releasing fear/shame/guilt/frustration about past planning mishaps so you’re ready to plan from a fresh slate.

 

I’ll share how I used to plan (like an absolute maniac and then I’d work my tail off to keep up with my to-do list while still not hitting my goals and getting crazy stressed) and how I plan now in a more creative, nourishing, holistic way that honours my creativity and energy levels.

(Since I started planning in this way, I actually work less and accomplish more – plus I think I do better work.)

Plus, of course the magic that comes from gathering with creative kindred spirits to explore and grow together, including the chance to get on-the-spot coaching from me during the call to help you transform your personal planning pitfalls.

 

Find out more + reserve your spot here.

 

Looking forward to exploring this with you,

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