Does your day job get in the way of your dream?

 

Most people who have built their own thing did it while working full time for someone else.

I mean – you have to pay the bills. Very few of us have enough money to fund our dreams without working, it’s just a fact of life.

But don’t let the facts keep you from your dream.

Just because you have to have a job right now does not mean that you can’t stay connected to your dream full time.

You can have a boring or crappy job and still be excited and inspired about your dream! And when you do this – you generate more energy for your dream.

And then you get to leave work feeling energized and excited to work on your dream.

When you don’t stay connected to your dream, you tend to leave work feeling tired and resentful about not having enough time for your dream. And then you don’t have the energy to work on your dream… and you make no progress…. and you get more tired and resentful.

It doesn’t have to be this way. You can have your job AND your dream.

You really, absolutely, totally, do not need to wait until you’re ready to quit your job before you can have that joy of being connected to your dream.

I promise.

And of course this works for people who don’t have day jobs too! No matter what you do all day, doing it while feeling connected to your dream makes it better.

So let’s do this!

The Creative Dream Coaching Circle: Staying In Touch With Your Dream While At Your Day Job is happening live online via streaming video on Tuesday, March 21 at 1:00 pm (Central, North America).

(And yes it will be recorded so you don’t have to be there live.  You can even email me your question ahead of time and I’ll make sure to talk about your specific situation during the call)

I’ll walk you through the process I use stay connected with my dream and you’ll have a chance to practice it right there on the call.

I’ll talk about little things I did to help me stay connected to, inspired by and excited about my dream while working at my day job.  Plus we’ll brainstorm together to come up with even more ways.

And we’ll have time for coaching you through the places where you get stuck with this and answering your questions.

The cost: $0 or $25.

This call is free for all Creative Dream Circle members. (If you are a member, check the weekly emails I send out for a link to get all the details for this call)

If you’re not a member you can join us just for this call for $25 US.

>>> Reserve your spot now.

I am so looking forward to exploring this with you!

Creative Planning + Project Management Call is tomorrow

You want a plan that makes you excited to bounce out of bed in the morning and get to work, yes?

Or, at the very least, you want to feel like you know what you’re doing.

Because the curse of creativity is also the gift of creativity: an abundance of amazing ideas. And the creative mind which comes up with all of these ideas tends to have a difficult time corralling them into finished projects.

I love this idea but what do I DO? How do I plan? What do I need to do to make sure I get the work done this time?

You want to have enough of a plan to give you the direction and support you need, but you also want enough freedom to make space for the magic to happen. Finding that balance can be tricky, to put it mildly.

You want to believe in yourself, your project and your creative voice.

But sometimes the planning process itself can be a challenge, I mean there is nothing like planning to step out of your comfort zone to wake up your inner critics!

And then you’re tangling with self-doubt instead of drawing up a plan. And you wind up just stuck.

We’ve all been there.

Tomorrow’s call on Creative Planning + Project Management we’ll explore this together.  You’ll get:

 

Clarity on where planning mishaps come from and what to do about them. Plus a healing process for releasing fear/shame/guilt/frustration about past planning mishaps so you’re ready to plan from a fresh slate.

 

I’ll share how I used to plan (like an absolute maniac and then I’d work my tail off to keep up with my to-do list while still not hitting my goals and getting crazy stressed) and how I plan now in a more creative, nourishing, holistic way that honours my creativity and energy levels.

(Since I started planning in this way, I actually work less and accomplish more – plus I think I do better work.)

Plus, of course the magic that comes from gathering with creative kindred spirits to explore and grow together, including the chance to get on-the-spot coaching from me during the call to help you transform your personal planning pitfalls.

 

Find out more + reserve your spot here.

 

Looking forward to exploring this with you,

Creative Planning: Why is it so hard sometimes?

why is planning so hard sometimes?

You want a plan that makes you excited to bounce out of bed in the morning and get to work.

Or at the very least, you want to feel like you know what you’re doing.

Which is a pretty small dream to have so why is it so illusive sometimes?

We tend to think if we can just get our shit together and come up with a good plan – then we can make our creative dreams real.

But it’s a lot more complicated than that.

Planning is where the invisible ethereal essence and vision of your dream coalesce with outer-world action and work and transform into a real, live, fully birthed creative project.

I mean that’s kind of a big deal.

So even thought we’ve all failed at creative planning I think we should pat ourselves on the back just for stepping onto the field and giving it a shot.

This is brave work.

And over the next few weeks I’m going to be blogging about creative planning in hopes of offering some insight and ideas to help you brave the many pitfalls of the creative planning process.

Starting at the beginning.

Before you can make a workable plan you have to know WHY you want a plan.

I mean I know this seems obvious, but give this a chance – really give this some thought.

  • I want to feel sure about how to make this happen.
  • I want to feel organized.
  • I want to feel confident that I know what to do.

Then, once you have some answers that feel true – dig deeper.

  • I want to feel sure about how to make this happen BECAUSE: I’m worried that it’s not going to work out. I need to see it all planned out in black and white before I am going to believe that I can really do this.
  • I want to feel organized BECAUSE: I feel so disorganized and like I just don’t know what to do or how to do it. When I think about this I feel chaotic and frustrated.
  • I want to feel confident that I know what to do BECAUSE: I don’t trust myself to follow through. I have tried and given up so many times before.

You need to work with the uncomfortable feeling that gets triggered when you dig deeper, otherwise those feelings will take over and sabotage your planning process without you even noticing.

You want to create a plan that is supportive of you, your creative process and the result you are looking for.

To get there you need to do your planning from a place of deep alignment with your inner wisdom, your creative genius and the heart and soul of your creative project.

Because otherwise you are unconsciously planning from your inner critics, un-helpful patterns and limiting beliefs.

So you start by clearing out those feelings, first by naming them.

Everyone wants to skip this step but it’s the most important step.

So – go do it.

Now.

Ask yourself WHY you want to plan. And then dig deeper into your answers.

And, as I said, I’ll be writing about creative planning for the next few weeks so we can keep exploring this together.

Then, on Feb 7 I’m offering a special Creative Dream Coaching Circle on Creative Planning and Project Management.

Crystal clear clarity on where planning mishaps come from and what to do about them.

 

Find out more and reserve your spot right here.

[HELPFUL VIDEO] How to Practice Self-Love/Self-Care In The Times When You Need It The Most

I made this video in April 2015 for Susannah Conway’s April Love and it felt like it would be a helpful message to share here right now.

 

Plus! I am celebrating the Year of Dreams 2017 Dream Planner, Guided Journal and Colouring Book with a series of free online classes!

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My aim: To Create Wildly Helpful and Ridiculously Enlightening Classes to Help You Build Your Solid Foundation for a Magical + Fulfilling 2017.

I’m offering five free classes between Nov 29 and January 3!

Find out more about the classes + register right here.

See you there!

How To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone.

Inner Work 101 is a series of in-depth blog posts I’m working on to de-mystify the inner workings of inner work.  I’m tired of seeing brilliant creative people stumble around and settle for less than they really want because they don’t know how to navigate the path of their own potential and this is what I’m doing to help change that.  Find all the Inner Work 101 posts right here.

I’ve been in a complicated place with my dreams lately.  This happens when my dreams grow and then demand that I grow to keep up with them.

So I can see this new dream ahead of me and I can feel all the ways that I’m not there yet.  Like it’s close enough that I can see it, but far enough that it’s still outside of my comfort zone.

How to get out of your comfort zone

So either I have to bring it into my comfort zone, or I have to step out of my comfort zone to meet it.

This would be simple enough except when you zoom in and see what the boundary of the comfort zone is actually made of.

How to get out of your comfort zone

Yeah.

This stuff orbits around you and your life.

When you contract to avoid it your whole life contracts.

When you expand and grow you hit up against it.

It sucks.  There is no way to sugar coat this.

Comfort zones aren’t necessarily comfortable.  They should really be called familiar zones.

But when you stay in your comfort zone out of a fear of facing that mess that makes up the boundary, you let your fear control your possibilities.

So it becomes important to figure out how to work with that boundary.

Which means you have to learn how to really be with your fear and doubt and confusion and the deep wounds within.

And then you have to learn how to bring love and calm and safety and stability into these places so that the work of healing and transformation can begin.

The important thing to remember is that this is powerful work.

As in: you are powerful for doing it.

Because as soon as you get into that boundary and start looking closer at what’s going on there you’re not going to feel powerful.  You’re going to feel like shit.

For us sensitive creative types this process seems extra-excruciating.

This is why people avoid this work even though they know it means settling for less than they want in life – because it feels awful to feel lost and small and confused and unsure and defeated.

I mean avoiding pain is a normal human instinct.

It’s very tempting to go back to avoidance and staying on the surface of things – to contracting and living within your comfort zone.  Because hey it’s better than feeling like shit, right?

But your dream is how your soul calls you towards your purpose. And it’s going to keep calling.

So this is where I’ve been lately.

People always ask me: does it get easier?

Well yes and no.

As you become more familiar with the process you develop more faith in yourself and your ability to do the work.  So then it does seem easier.

Plus the more you do this the more your boundary changes and lightens up and so healing and transformation can happen faster.

But it still feels like shit when you’re right there in it.  That part doesn’t change.

But there is a very big bright side to all of this.

I mean this is literally how you stop your fear from stopping you!

It’s how you expand your possibilities and create a brighter life for yourself.

Each time you go into the boundary and bring love and healing there you make more space for your greatness.

The last time I was in a big, long period of this shit was right around the time I moved into my Dream Loft.

I had bought this place only 6 months after quitting my job to the Creative Dream Incubator full time.  I was not sure I was totally ready for this move because I wasn’t sure yet what my income was going to be like as a business owner and the Dream Loft was going to double my monthly expenses.

But my intuition insisted that this was absolutely the right move for me and I was committed to following my intuition so there I was: scared and totally out of my comfort zone.

[Note I do NOT encourage anyone to be reckless with their finances or take unnecessary risks for their dreams.  Usually I find dreams grow best with slow, steady steps and not frightening leaps of faith.]

I had to face so many fears all at once.  It’s not just the fear of not making enough money. It’s never as simple as that.

Beneath the surface fear always hides the real fears which hit closer to home…

  • What if this fails and I feel like a miserable failure for the rest of my life?
  • What if this fails and it means I’m not good enough?
  • What if this fails and I lose my house and wind up on the streets and no one cares?
  • What if it turns out I was really stupid for ever believing in myself?

Sitting with these questions feels like shit.

For a while there, pretty much every single day I got all tangled up all of these fears.

But over time I got a handle on it.  I started to shift my limiting beliefs and un-helpful patterns.  I started to create space for new possibilities.

That is when I really got to know myself as a person who trusts herself to support herself and her dreams.

Before then I believed in possibilities.  I believed that I had purpose and that it included sharing my creativity with the world somehow.

But my income had always come from jobs.  Any time I had tried to create my own income with my art and creative ideas – I had flopped.

I didn’t know how to financially support myself with my creativity.

And I took a bunch of business classes and I had built up my business before I had left my job…

But I also had to go through this inner process of growing into this version of my who fully trusts herself to support herself and her dreams.

It’s been over five years since that happened.  And in that time I have been steady in my trust of myself.  And my business has steadily supported me all that time.

I mean I don’t ALWAYS trust myself – everything gets off balance sometimes.  But I get back to trust quickly now.  Trusting myself became my set-point, it’s what I naturally come back to.

It works this way for all dreams.

For example after being single for over a decade I went through a similar process before meeting my partner.

I am going through it again as we deepen and solidify our commitment to each other and figure out what kind of life we want to create together.

But this isn’t about me.

What about you?

Where does your comfort zone have you stuck and playing small?  When you feel like shit do you give up on your dreams?

Because your dream is how your soul calls you towards your purpose. And it’s going to keep calling.

And you’re never going to fully give up, right?

You’re here to share your gifts with the world, right?

So the important thing is to not give up when things get hard. Stay with it.

And as ridiculous as it sounds, this is what helps with that: remember that it’s supposed to feel shitty sometimes.

Feeling shitty about yourself and your dreams is not a sign that you’re on the wrong path.  It’s a sign that you’re facing your fears.

Also: it doesn’t have to make sense.  After you’ve moved further down the path you’ll look back and it will make sense then.  It won’t make sense while you’re in it.

The simple 2-step process to keep moving and get out of your comfort zone:

1. Do your best to meet with your dreams and give them what they need to grow.  

–> Need help with this part? My free e-course shows you a powerful way to meet with your dream and the Creative Dream Incubator e-Course in the Creative Dream Circle shows you how to work with it in depth.

2. As you do this stay with the feelings that come up and learn how to bring healing and transformation to them so you can access your inner gifts and ability to bring your dreams to life.

–> Need help with this part? The Un-Sticking Station in the Creative Dream Circle leads you through every step of this process and Module 4 of the Creative Dream Incubator e-course gives you more tools for transforming your comfort zone.

Simple.  But not easy.

Your dream will grow you.  And in the end, after you’ve moved through all the shitty stuff, you’ll be glad it did.

New video! You don’t have to feel ready.

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So I am doing LIVE videos on Tuesdays now!

(I’ll be broadcasting every Tuesday on Facebook – if you want to join live next week get all the details right here.)

Here’s this week’s video:

Creative Dream TV: You don’t have to feel ready

Posted by Andrea Schroeder on Tuesday, 12 April 2016

(If you can’t play the video here you can watch it directly on Facebook right here.)

The other video I mention in that video is What If You Can’t Afford The Kind Of Support You Need To Grow Your Dream.

Of course, my Creative With Money course is happening next week.

I know money is one of the biggest obstacles to bringing dreams to life – but when you start to work with money in the way I teach in this class that can change.

The soul of money is the soul of support, nourishment and possibility.

It’s purpose is to serve you in the unfoldment of your purpose – to help you grow into who you really are.

We live in a world that has a deeply broken relationship with money.

Greed and corruption and injustice are the manifestations of this broken relationship.

Unfortunately, when we are born into a world where money functions in these ways it’s easy for us to wind up with all sorts of “issues” with money.

That’s why my money class is actually a group healing.

I spent five years developing this class because money is such a sensitive topic.  I wanted this class to be creative and expansive and supportive and above all – healing.

So we can go into those places where our own relationship with money is broken, and heal it.

So that we can get back to our rightful connection with the soul of money.

It’s not about “getting rich quick” or “busting through your money blocks”.

It’s about deep healing which brings: delight and expansion and possibility.

A celebration of the abundance that already lives within you, an opportunity to use your inner gifts in new ways and an invitation for more to come find you.

I’m really honoured to have the opportunity to be able to share this experience with you.

Click here to read all about it.

If you’re thinking of joining me but have some questions first, email me using the contact form on this page.

Wishing you delight and magic, today and always,

ON HIATUS Weekly live videos, Tuesdays at 11am Central

WEEKLY LIVE VIDEOS ARE GOING ON HIATUS while I go deep into my “creative cave” to work on the Year of Dreams 2017: Dream Planner, Guided Journal + Coloring Book for Healing Magic + Dreams Come True.

Our LAST live video for the fall will be happening on Tuesday, September 20.

I don’t know if they’ll come back in the same format or not.  I’ll give up an update in December.

I’ll still be posting daily journaling prompts on Instagram and Facebook.

 

 

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I’m on live video, every Tuesday on Facebook.  *Live meaning – I’m live on camera, you can watch and type your questions into the comments and I’ll answer right there in the video.  

I do card readings and choose journaling prompts to help people work through whatever is between them and their dream.

We talk about our dreams and our struggles.  We offer support and encouragement to each other.  It’s pretty awesome.

I love these live videos – I always leave feeling more “filled up” up than when I started.  This is the magic of creative kindred spirit community.  (You can check out the recordings from previous weeks’ videos here)

This is free + everyone is invited.

I’m broadcasting live from the Creative Dream Incubator Facebook page.

To join us live just go to my page at 11am Central (in North America) next Tuesday.

While I promise to hit the record button right at 11, I can’t control exactly how this works (part of the magic of being live!) there may be a delay or you may see me right away.  If you don’t see it wait a minute then refresh the page.

Once you’re watching me live there is an option there to subscribe – if you do that then you’ll get notifications when I go live so it will be easier to find me next time.

 

Having trouble watching? This is from Facebook help:

If you’re having trouble viewing videos on your computer, try these troubleshooting tips:

  • Quit and then reopen your browser
  • Update your browser (ex: Chrome, Firefox, Internet Explorer, Safari)
  • Try a different browser

(note from Andrea: some people say just closing their other open tabs helps)

If you’re using Adobe Flash Player, you can also try these tips:

  • Install the latest version of Adobe Flash Player
  • Visit Adobe Flash Player Help for assistance with video display and video playback issues

See you there!

You are not too busy

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You’re not too busy.

You don’t need to wait for _____.

You are good enough, exactly as you are right now.

You are ready.

I used to live inside these stories:

You’re not ready.

You have to wait for things to change.

It would take a miracle to get to where you want to be.

They felt so true for me that they made up the foundation for the life I was living at the time.

I remember taking a class called Spiritual Economics.  (This was the textbook for that class – I really loved it)

My teacher asked me what it was I wanted.  I knew exactly what I wanted and I lit up while telling him about my dream life in crisp detail.

Creative play. Art-making. Self-reflection. Quiet. Adventure. Abundance. Travel. Meaning. Purpose. Offering my gifts unabashedly.

“… but it’s impossible right now.”

Was how I finished my story.

He raised an eyebrow at me.

“Is it?”

Something about the way he asked that question make me wonder if maybe I was wrong.

But that made me feel defensive.  So I responded with all of the reasons why, yes, it’s not possible right now.

You can’t just make money by being creative and inspiring and happy.

I mean how could my dream possibly support me?

It’s not like I hadn’t tried.  I had lots of dreams and ideas and ambition.  I tried and tried and tried and tried and failed and failed and failed and failed.  And at that point in my life my poor heart was too tired and broken to keep trying.

I needed to live inside of those stories.

They felt safe.

Because otherwise I’d be left with nothing but the truth: that my dreams needed me to be braver.

My dreams needed me to question the beliefs that had me stuck.

My dreams needed me to find a way around these stucks, and back to my truth.

My dreams needed me to grow.

And, ultimately, my dreams needed me to see that change was up to no one and no thing else but ME.

Looking back, what really strikes me about that time in my life is how TRUE those beliefs felt.

They felt so true that I could live inside them.  Solid.

But now I know those beliefs as lies.  I don’t live by them anymore.

And it’s not the world that changed – it’s me that changed.

Yes it is possible for me to do the things my heart calls me to do.  Period.  This is the truth I live inside now.

If I can’t see a way it means I need to create it.

If I get stuck it means I need to look more closely at myself.

All the power is here – in me, my heart, my dreams.

Resistance wants us to forget this.

And that’s why it’s so important to face it head on.  Otherwise you get stuck in the lies.

You’re not ready.

You’re not good enough.

It’s impossible.

Not true.

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We’re going to explore all of this, and so much more, at Resistance Rx: Magic Mojo For Mucho Creative Momentum.

While you’re inside the lies it feels so confusing to figure out how to get out of them.

But it’s actually fairly simple.

When you take to some time and really notice what’s going on you see that truth has an unmistakable quality to it. A light.

That light will lead you to amazing places.

It’s happening on August 23.

Click here to find out  more and reserve your spot.

You’re ready.

What to do when you give it your best shot but nothing is working

what to do when you give it your best shot and nothing is working

There are basically three options:

1. Give up. Pretend you don’t care. Ignore your feelings and just do your best to enjoy life as it is.

This usually results in engaging in addictive patterns like: people-pleasing, over-eating, over-spending, over-working, relationship drama, drinking, gambling, excessive facebooking, etc.

Eventually you have no time or energy to wonder about your dreams anymore anyway.

2. Stand your ground. Be firm. Make a commitment to MAKE IT HAPPEN.

Focus on the external and work your ass off to change your life.  Follow all of the expert advice and work harder.

Eventually you’ll either get what you wanted and then wonder why it’s not as fulfilling as you’d hoped it would be or you’ll burn out from exhaustion.

3. Trust the process. Focus on your inner world.  Embrace the journey.

Bringing a dream to life is a healing journey, you have to follow the journey and do your best to not judge it.  Assume that everything is happening to serve you in the journey, stay curious about why things are going the way they are going.

Eventually you’ll either get your dream or you won’t or you’ll find a new dream.  Either way you’ll end up more connected to your self, more creative, more intuitive, more grounded and much, much happier.

So the way I see it #3 is actually the only option.

But that doesn’t mean I always take option #3.

If you follow me on Instagram you already know that I love skating.

Winnipeg in winter is magical.  The river turns into this little enchanted village along the skating path.  Every year there’s an art + architecture contest where people from around the world design “warming huts” – small structures that go up along the river so people can go in and be protected from the wind.  So as you’re skating along the river there are all of these works of art that you can go inside to take a rest.

Last year I re-structured my days so I could so skating almost every weekday at sunset.

I’m not a good skater, in fact before last year I hadn’t skated in about 30 years.  I fell a lot and when I was moving I wasn’t moving very fast.

But that didn’t matter, I had an amazing time.

This year I was starting to get better at skating.  I was moving faster and hardly ever falling.  This year I have an awesome  boyfriend who goes skating with me.  This year I was having so much fun on the river!

But then my back started hurting.  Like, really hurting.

Determined to not miss out on any of my winter joy, I went to a network chiropractor, thinking a few sessions would fix me up and I’d be back on the ice in no time.

I was wrong.

I mean, the treatment helped right from the beginning.

But it didn’t just fix me up and get me back in my skates.

The next thing I knew I was in a “healing process” which was the last place I wanted to be.

It was awful.  As the network chiropractic treatments were working to unwind my lower back and hips sometimes my shoulders and upper back would stiffen up in response.

Sometimes I’d start to get a little better and I’d be optimistic about getting back in my skates and then wake up the next morning barely able to un-fold my back and get out of bed.

And I was so incredibly tired.  Never mind skating, just going out for coffee felt like too much most days.

I was frustrated and miserable and fighting the process every step of the way.

I was taking option #2 except there was nothing I could, like, DO to change my situation.  So I was just mentally being all “I’m fine! This is no big deal. I’ll be better tomorrow” which means I wasn’t being present with what was actually happening.  I wasn’t in the process.

I was seeing the process as the enemy – I wanted it done.  I wanted to feel normal again.

I felt sorry for myself and tried to fight against how tired I was and still do the things I wanted to do.

Of course, fighting the process doesn’t tend to make it go faster.

And it wasn’t until I could embrace the fact that I was in a healing process that I started to see improvements in my back.

The funny thing is that embracing the healing process looked like:

  • taking lots of epsom salt baths
  • daily nap
  • more time reading in bed
  • going to bed crazy early (which I love)
  • more quiet

I mean – in some ways the healing process looks like a vacation, right?

Once I embraced it I wondered why I was ever fighting it.  I enjoyed the permission to slow down.

And then I pretty quickly started feeling better.

All of the magic is in option #3 but it won’t reveal itself until it’s time to reveal itself.

This is a question that comes up from time to time in the Creative Dream Circle and it has come up again now.

One of my members has been giving it her all, making the most of the tools in the Circle really diving in and doing the inner work for the past five months and…. nothing is changing.

She isn’t any closer to her dream.

So we had a live coaching call yesterday and she asked me what to do about it and we’re continuing that conversation in our forum this week.  (For Circle members, join our conversation about it right here)

Conventional wisdom says, like in my story above, that when nothing else works it’s time to surrender.

Except surrender is the worst.

In the story I shared above the journey was asking me to surrender in pretty small ways but I still fought it pretty hard.

Because giving up control is the worst.

Except we’re not actually in control anyway so giving up the illusion of control is actually super empowering.

Yeah.

So how does this help you when you’re in that hard place and surrender is too scary?

I remember being in a REALLY rough spot.  Sitting on my kitchen floor, crying.

I was doing my best to take option #3 but not only was my life not changing in the ways I wanted it to it was actually getting worse.

Everything was falling apart.

And I asked myself this question: “WHAT IF everything ACTUALLY WAS happening for my highest good? What then?”

That question opened something up inside me.

What if things were falling apart so something new could be born?

What if the universe actually was literally dreaming a bigger dream for me than the one I was dreaming for myself?  Like what if that’s not some bullshit platitude but a real thing that means I can’t even see the bigger dream?

What if I stopped trying to control the process?

I’d love to say that from that moment on everything just magically came together for me, but it didn’t.

I had to take each and every step on the path – even the crappy steps.

I had to work through all the stuff I had to work through.

And yes I got to where I wanted to be.  And yes it took way longer than I wanted it to.

But all those crappy steps taught me and stretched me and grew me in the ways I needed in order to get to where I am today.

Just because you’re not SEEING progress does not mean you’re not MAKING progress.

 

Ask yourself: WHAT IF everything ACTUALLY IS happening for your highest good? What then?