Sometimes, you will need to get advice/guidance from others people about your dream.
Sometimes that is so helpful! The right bit of advice at the right time can change everything.
And sometimes you need to create your own way to do it and just keep experimenting.
And knowing when you are where in that takes a LOT of self-listening and self trust.
(This is why I want to help you PRACTICE Creative Dreaming more often)
Sometimes you will go to someone for help and they will absolutely give you the WRONG advice that derails your dreams.
I've been thinking about this a lot because I recently had a business coaching session with Pamela Slim who I’ve known forever and trust completely. It was immensely helpful for me to talk through my plans and ideas with her, and I have felt so much less overwhelmed since then!
SO MUCH less overwhelmed.
And because we did a deep dive into everything during that coaching session... I’ve also been reflecting on how I got to where I am, where my business is currently considerably smaller than it used to be.
And that is due to a lot of factors that a lot of us have experienced the last few years!!
But it is also from seeking outside advice - only that time it was from someone who was not, in any way, trustworthy.
I asked for help from a self-proclaimed expert and he derailed my dream.
This is many years ago. My website had been hacked badly, my host was useless at helping me fix it, and I realized, after I hired someone else to fix it, that I couldn’t stay with my host if I wanted to have a secure website.
At that time the membership/courses part of my business was separate from my public website, so I went to the person hosting that part, explained my situation, specifically that SEO was my main source of traffic and income and I’d worked for years to build it up on my website, and if I moved to their hosted system - would I still have my SEO?
This guy gave me his word that his system was BETTER than what I had.
So I moved my website.
Then I lost ALL of my Google traffic.
And it never came back.
I am talking 3,000-10,000 NEW people landing on my website every month for years on end from Google searches…. gone.
When I showed my analytics to this host, he was stunned. And he had no idea how to fix it.
And then I realized that he never really did understand SEO at any depth, he was just cocky.
Which is so easy to do online! Act like you know everything and are the best and charge accordingly and people just believe you!
I never got my search traffic back. And of course it’s had a huge impact on my business - the way for new people to find my just dried up overnight!
But in the years since, so much about Google and all of the social media algorithms have changed so much that at this point I’m not sure it matters.
I wanted to share how HUGE the spectrum is from, helpful to damaging, when we ask for outside help or advice for our dreams.
There are a lot of people out there who want to sell solutions to problems. There are a lot of gurus and self proclaimed experts. It’s so important to not just believe what people say when they say they have the advice we need… It’s so important to listen to our guts.
Even though that won’t always matter, our guts won’t always know.
It feels like things are a little heightened, when our dreams are involved because dreams stir up SO MANY FEELINGS and can confuse the matter.
We’re going to make mistakes.
We may very well trust the wrong person at the wrong time, like I did. (Although - my website had been hacked, I was in a pressured situation, and I made the best decision I could given my circumstances. I have forgiven myself for trusting that guy)
We can contemplate…. maybe this wasn’t a mistake maybe it was the universe re-directing us.
We can.. we MUST.. validate our feelings about all of it.
But in the end, we just have to recognize that asking for advice about our dreams is really complicated.
Your dream is precious. You understand it better than anyone... And your dream does sometimes need things that you can't do alone.
It's such a delicate juggling act.
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