Sunday I mentioned escape fantasies vs dreams which sparkled some interesting comments in the forum in the membership and I’ve been thinking a lot about…
What makes a dream seem so impossible that we call it a fantasy?
What helps us CLAIM our dreams, and say - yes this will be hard but I deserve it and in fact I am CAPABLE of creating this?
Of course, given the state of the world, it's easy to give up on our dreams right now.
But I know that listening to our dreams, which is a way of listening to our souls, our creativity and our values about how to live our lives, is actually the ONLY way we can create a better future.
There are lots of ways to define “dreams” and “escape fantasies”
My definition is that your dream is your soul showing you your path in life. It’s showing you who you really are and what you are really capable of.
Your dream is your own soul shouting THIS IS FOR YOU!!!! That's why dreams feel so special and have that pull to them. It's a SOUL CALLING.
An escape fantasy… that is usually an ACCURATE way of seeing something in your life that isn’t working for you.
Your desire to escape is completely legitimate!
I think an escape fantasy is usually tied in with a dream and maybe we are invalidating our dreams and say “Oh it’s just a fantasy” or maybe we are in a hard place and not feeling up for the incredible courage it takes to face the thing in your life that you want to change, and work on a realistic plan for making those changes.
I don’t think it ever matters if it’s “just” an escape fantasy.
If you want a thing, that’s valid.
If a thing keeps calling you…. that’s a calling.
It's easy for this to feel sooooo complicated and journaling it out can help!
Journaling prompts for when you feel like your dream is “just” an escape fantasy and not something to take seriously:
What are the feelings that brings up? Do these feelings need some tending to? (Members: use the Un-Sticking Station practice)
WHY does it feel like an escape fantasy and not a dream? Which part of you is labeling it like this?
Get specific - is it truly for sure completely impossible? If some parts are possible and some parts are impossible, make a clear list of both.
IF it IS impossible: WHY do you want it? How would having it make you feel? What will change in your life if you had it? Give these questions lots of space, and then look through your answers for clues for things you CAN bring into your life. Are there any dreams there?
If it is NOT actually impossible: congratulations! You have a creative DREAM. All dreams come with obstacles and hard parts, and you’re going to work through them as long as you don’t give up. Use Dream Book to sort through the Dream Work, Inner Work and Outer Work that this dream needs - work through it slowly and really get GROUNDED with it.
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