So there you are. Cruising along the path to your creative dream.
It's not all unicorns and rainbows, there are tough times and challenges but overall it's pretty great.
But then it happens.
Someone zips right past you!
They zip right past you and they get to the prize.The book deal or the solo show at the really hard-to-get-into gallery or they have a shiny new e-course or they were featured on Etsy or whatever.
They got IT and you didn't. And now you're jealous.
And it feels like crap.
And it becomes so easy to start thinking...
it's so easy for her
everything is just handed to her
it's not fair
It becomes easy to start comparing. To start freaking out.
To start wondering if you really are good enough to make this happen.
And if you are good enough, why is it happening for other people but not for you?
Jealousy can let loose a massive tidal wave of energy and "Stuff".
And when you're in it, it's anything but pleasant.
But it's also pretty unavoidable.
Hello! There are billions of us on this planet. Others are bound to have what you want.
Just like you are bound to have, and to continue to get, things that other people want.
Jealousy is actually a super useful tool for Creative Dreaming, if you're willing to be with it.
That's the rub, there.
Being willing to be with it.
Jealousy, like any other feeling, has a lot to teach us, if we are willing to learn.
Jealousy can show you what you want.
Sometimes jealousy can be a great big surprise.
Sometimes you didn't even know you wanted something until you saw someone else get it.
Sometimes you kinda knew, but were keeping it a buried just beneath the surface. Until so-and-so got it.And now it's not so beneath the surface anymore
It's right up in your face that you want this thing that someone else just got.
This is good because the odds of you getting what you want raise dramatically when you are willing to admit you want it.
But looking deeper than that... jealousy can steer you towards where your own stuff is getting in the way of your success.
This is the part where it gets Really Uncomfortable: Journaling Prompts for Overcoming Jealousy
When you start really exploring it, your jealousy shines a light on your limiting beliefs. The places where you hold yourself back.
To start really exploring it, ask yourself:
Who are you jealous of? Why?
How does it feel?
What does it say about you?
And by ask yourself I mean really ask yourself. Spend some time with them and the answers and the feelings they spark.
Who are you jealous of? Why? Of course this shows you more about what you really want.
How does it feel? What does that say about you? Now this is where it starts to get interesting.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such and it makes me feel like I am never going to get it for myself.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such and now there is less for me.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such and now if I get it people will think I am copying her.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such and it makes me feel like I must be stupid and hopeless because I haven't figured out how to get it yet.
I'm jealous of so-and-so because she just got such-and-such so she must be better at it than I am.
The way the jealousy makes you feel shows you something about where you are stuck.
If you think someone else getting what you want makes it less likely that you will ever get it - this is showing you that you hold a belief in lack. There isn't enough to go around. Working on shifting this belief will help you be less stuck with your dreams.
If you think someone else getting what you want is a sign that you are stupid or hopeless or anything - this is showing you that you don't really believe that you are good enough. Working on shifting this belief will help you be less stuck with your dreams.
You may or may not be aware of these beliefs, they may be sub-conscious or not - doesn't really matter. Jealousy is bringing them to light.You see them now. One you see them, they are ready to be healed and shifted into beliefs that are going to nurture and support you.
Whatever it is, it is holding you back.
Invisibly and beneath the surface, jealousy trips you up and keeps you from shining your brightest light.
And it only pops up above the surface when it gets stirred up by something like jealousy.
So having it be up here on the surface where you can see it is actually a huge gift.
Because you can learn about it and change it and heal it and when you do, you open up more space inside you for your creative genius.
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