Often the first stage is traumatic.
This happens regularly in the membership with the meditations and journaling prompts. You suddenly see your situation in a different light.
Often it’s that you have a moment of CLARITY about an internal obstacle… a way that you’ve been approaching your dream that just isn’t working for you…
... which is SO GOOD and yet you feel like shit about it.
Oh - I am fucking up. I am in my way. I am self sabotaging. I am doing this wrong.
Then your inner critic can have a hay day with it and you spiral into a dark place.
But... if you keep showing up...
(Use the Un-Sticking Station meditations. Remembering that there’s one for “when I am too upset to do this” which will help bring you back from a dark place.)
... You work through that initial reaction.
And you integrate the new awareness.
Your perspective shifts from “I fucked up, I am doing this wrong, I am a fuck up, I will never succeed” to “Oh I could just change the way I’ve been approaching this one thing and that would give me a lot of new options!”
Then you change the way you’ve been approaching that one thing.
And suddenly you have new options. AND new energy, clarity, inspiration and motivation.
This is how it works a lot of the time! Having sudden clarity about what needs to change can trigger shame, instead of helping you take your next steps.
It sucks!!!!
But we have the tools in the membership to work through it and not get stuck in it. (Dream Book gives you structure + support, the library of Inner Work helps get out of the really hard spots)
And I am always trying to create a culture where we don’t judge ourselves for it.
We accept that - this is just a thing that happens. It doesn’t mean anything about our value or worth or potential.
It’s just a thing to work with.
As always, the answer is: JUST KEEP SHOWING UP.
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