I want to share this partly BECAUSE I feel uncomfortable about sharing it.
These are the parts of creative dreaming that feel so awkward and vulnerable that we want to hide them… and then we feel so alone in them… and then it’s so easy to start to feel like we ARE alone in it... and that this “stuck” is evidence that we can’t have our dream.
I see this play out all the time with people I work with, so I’ve always shared this stuff quite openly to help them not feel alone in it.
I've always tried to create a culture where we validate all parts of the process. You'll be scared and awkward sometimes, and you're super brave to keep going anyway.
So, I am in an awkward and weird place as I get ready for the Make Space In Your LIFE For your DREAM call tomorrow.
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I am planning then re-planning and re-planning and feeling a lot of feelings and I am starting to avoid working on this and this is a problem! This is happening tomorrow and I need to be ready!
I've been kind of going in circles with my resistance and big awkward feelings, and I decided to stop that, and use the Un-Sticking Station practice to met with the part of me who doesn’t want to look at this.
She comes to life immediately.
Oh wow. Thanks! I’m so glad to get some attention from you because I wanted to show you this recipe.
A recipe?
Yes, I want to make Rice Krispie squares with those unicorn marshmallows you got last summer and have no real use for.
Well, yeah it would be nice to use those marshmallows up and I thank you for remembering that they are in the cupboard and yes we can have a goal of using them up in sometime this summer… when we need to make a treat to share with other people because I don’t want to eat a whole tray of Rice Krispie squares by myself right now.
That’s fine you can actually just make them and share them, like go drop them off at people’s houses. Your friends would appreciate this.
Sure, they would. But I wanted to talk to you about this class that’s happening tomorrow.
But I want to talk to you about Rice Krispies and the unicorn marshmallows.
Which are highly processed so they are not going bad any time soon, but this class does have a deadline, so could we talk about this first?
It’s AMAZING to me how this part of me wants to focus on treats I don’t even like that much.
She puts the marshmallows down and starts to cry. “I just don’t think I am ready for this”
Oh honey. Why not?
I’m actually struggling with the whole idea of doing this class AS A CLASS because I think it’s something that is better done one-on-one. Like, how do I speak to the specific challenges that EACH PERSON faces when it comes to making space for their dream? I can’t! People may be in all different places and need all different kinds of “ways in”.
Yeah, I feel that! I agree! There is no one size fits all, and different people have different ways of defining what it means to pursue a dream and getting into the nitty gritty like this, in a general way that would be helpful to a group of people, does feel like a challenge.
Oh wow, I’m glad we agree, so can we cancel it?
We agree that this is the challenge, but I believe we are up to the challenge. Do you not agree with that?
Heavy sigh.
I guess I know I can do it. It’s just, I am not sure HOW to do it.
Well that is the whole thing about creative dreaming right? We can’t wait to already know how, we figure it out as we go.
But that’s so HARD!
Yeah. If it was easy everyone would do it. Creative dreaming is actually really brave work.
I see this part of me reach for that bag of marshmallows… and then the bag disappears!!!
WTF?
Her distraction is gone.
We both look in the place where the marshmallows were.
She starts to cry.
It’s just that, if we are going to do this, I want to do it RIGHT. I want to really reach and help the people who are wanting to make space for their dreams. This is such sacred important work. It matters.
Yeah I hear how important that is for you. But that’s how all parts of me feel about all parts of my work! Like - this is what we do, girl! Why do you have so much doubt about this class in particular?
That’s when I realise this part of me DOES NOT feel this way about this class in particular and that this part of me just resists all of my ideas because she cares so much about doing them PERFECTLY that she just freezes up and can’t do anything.
And that’s when I realise that I am giving her too much space in my creative process.
And so I call in the part of me who does know how to set this class up to be helpful and supportive and healing and magical.
And I re-read everything I have prepared for this, from her perspective….
AND WHOA!!!!
That was a good idea! That part of me edited my ideas a little brutally but I LOVE it now!!!!
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Sometimes all we need to do is acknowledge and validate how BIG our feelings around our dreams can be.
Your dreams matter.
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