In a meditation with the soul of my dream, if my dream turns to me and says GUUUURL! I always know I am about to hear something I really need to hear, but that I may not really want to hear.
It happened yesterday morning.
GUUUUURL, my dream said, WTF are you even doing?????
And I said… Well I think you know what I’m doing! I am trying to figure out what kinds of routines and structures/systems would work because my old routines don’t feel right and I don’t know what the new ones should be yet.
NO, my dream insisted, seriously GURL what are you doing??!?! You’re doing this all in your head! You’re leaving ME out! You’re leaving SOUL out! You’re leaving CREATIVITY out! You’re leaving MAGIC out! Where is there ANY space for the alchemy here???????
Oh wow. WTF am I doing indeed. I have been going in circles with this because I have been trying to figure it all out in my head.
This week I wrote about how all of our law of attraction and manifesting practices are culturally appropriated and therefore are missing key cultural elements.
And I wrote about how important it is to have a TWO WAY relationship with your soul of your dream. To not just treat the universe as a vending machine that will give you whatever you want as long as you order right.
You have to learn how to engage with the soul of your dream, to LISTEN to your dream.
Because once you have established a TWO WAY relationship with it, it can send you THE BEST advice, right when you need it.
(We have a Co-Dreaming call today in the membership and we’ll start the call with a meditation for sitting with your soul of your dream, so you can bring it your questions and problems and it can help you work out your next steps. This work, SITTING WITH and LISTENING TO our dreams is so profoundly important right now and I remain grateful for everyone who is doing in with me.)
I have been in such a LLOOOOONG process with this “re-creating my routines” project.
A part of me really does think I should be able to sort this out with logic and get it done quickly.
But really, I am doing a whole bunch of things at once:
- understanding my changing needs in mid-life, which keep changing!
- figuring out how to fit my two big dreams into my days: the Creative Dream Incubator and textile art
- creating a whole new creative practice to create space for the new art I want to make
- processing ALL THE THINGS that are happening, or trying to
All of these things feed each other. I know they fit together beautifully. I just don’t know HOW exactly.
And if I DO use logic to figure this as fast as possible, I miss out on figuring out the best way for me to do this. Like almost everything that has to do with dreams - slower is better.
Taking MORE time to reflect helps us better understand HOW to move forward.
And then I realized … I’ve been trying to figure out the new STRUCTURE I want for my work/soul/creative life…
… and I totally forgot about the STRUCTURE HABITS ROUTINES class in the membership! I’m so glad one of our members was doing it, and commented about something she learned, which reminded me… oh yeah that’s what I need.
It's a simple class with a set of prompts that I ask you to take several days to work through, to give yourself time to really process everything that is included when we look at structure, habits and routines.
So I spent an hour with the first set of prompts in that class and got SO MUCH clarity about how I want it all to feel and function. Like - i’ve been messing around in the DETAILS of it without a clear big picture VISION of what I want.
And that's when I made the card in the photo above: LESS STRUCTURE * MORE DEVOTION
I realized I've been so focused on looking for the right structure to hold everything I want to do and keep it all organized all the time.
And yes I do need that, dreams do need structure to be able to take root and thrive.
But structure, and logic, aren't the POWER. The devotion is where the power comes from. Your participation is where the power comes you. YOU ARE THE MAGIC.
Which is something I talk about in the creative planning and project management class. Having the right structure for you, and for your project, gives you more space to be really present with it and creates more space for magic. So there is a balance there - it can't be ALL ABOUT following through on a plan and it can't be JUST vibes.
There is a right balance there.
And I feel a lot closer to finding it.
Co-Dreaming/Co-Working call is today! I hope to see you there!
We'll start with a short meditation for connecting with the soul of your dream (like the Dream Lab) and then have time for whatever you want to do - planning next week, working on your projects, sharing your updates, talking about something that is stuck with your dreams or just hanging out in the magic of the group.
Call details are here. Replay will be there a few hours after we're done today.
Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership members:
Come to the forum to share your thoughts or start a conversation about whatever you're working with.
Do the Hello Day Energy Clearing + Intention Setting Practice (from Dream Book 2026)
Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.
Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.
Check out the calendar of upcoming calls. Make a plan to join us live or catch a replay.
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