Today was not a good day. I woke up dizzy and overwhelmed.
It was really hard to find my creative flow and I was thinking... maybe I should just take the day off. You know - have a me day. Make popcorn, catch up on my Netflix queue.
I checked my email and saw that one of my students was wondering the same thing.
She's hit a hard part in her work with her dreams, plus there are hard things happening in her personal life, plus the whole world is overwhelming so she was wondering if it was better to just take a "self care break" and come back to it when it's easier.
But no, it's not better to take a break. Working on your dream is THE BEST form of self care that we've got.
It's just that REAL self care is hard sometimes.
It asks you to face the hard things and make the hard choices.
Taking a break, having a me day - sometimes that's exactly what we need and sometimes (more times actually) what we're talking about there is numbing and distracting ourselves.
Which is fine it itself...
But when you dress it up as "self care" then it's problematic because you are legitimizing your excuses for not facing the hard thing.
You're actually just leaving yourself stuck in the hard place.
Here's the solution: you NEED practices that meet you where you are and help you move towards where you want to be.
NO ONE always feels brave and capable.
But there's lots you can do to connect with your inner wisdom, courage, creativity and power and then you WILL feel brave and capable... and filled up and happy and ready to explore your dreams.
I do this work every day in Dream Book.
Some days I meet myself crabby and feeling disheveled from a night of weird dreams.
Some days I meet myself feeling inspired and lit up.
It doesn't matter where you start - your Dream Book shows you how to get to where you want to be.