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Believe in my Creative Magic [Weekly Dream Status Report]

Note: This is a post about my daily practice with my Creative Dreams - I often link to the tools, courses and processes I use which are available to Dream Book members. If you're not a member, find out more + join us here.

On Fridays I do my Dream Status Report which is a series of prompts I use every week to help me have more clarity, momentum and groundedness on my path. You can do them with me (Dream Book members: come post yours in the forum!)!

🦄⚡️Creative Dream Incubator Weekly Coaching Call is today!!

Hope to see you there - or catch the replay over the weekend! (Call details are here, the reply will be on that page a few hours after we're done.) And after the call I"ll start a thread in the forum to share your plans for the week and as a space for accountability and support.

My Dream Status Report for this week:

PART ONE:

My dream is: I want to get an RV or camper van and travel… WITH MY CAT BEAR!!!! Create a comfy cozy home on wheels, and write + make art on the road while we have adventures. AND... I have a new creative dream which I am still not ready to talk about. AND... there is a sense of stability I had when I was married that I don't feel now which I want to create for myself, in a new way - still lots to explore with that one.

I want it because: It feels so sweet and makes me happy. And the new dream, which is more about art I want to make, feels like it will expand and energize my whole life. I feel like I am growing SO MUCH right now and my life needs to grow to reflect that.

When I have it I will feel: I think I will feel so happy, free and thrilled with my life. And also more stable and grounded.

PART TWO:

Invite the soul of your dream in (using the Dream Lab practice) to help you with the rest of the prompts.

(Working with one specific asset of this dream which feels like the most important to focus on right now)

I see art and colour and things moving around... it feels like my dream IS SO MUCH MORE than I think. There is this ALIVENESS that feels important. It feels so inspiring and expansive.

PART THREE:

Last week’s focus was: Be relaxed and open about my dreams.

What happened in the last week?

Some weeks I completely forget about my focus, some weeks I just can't do it but THIS WEEK I FREAKING NAILED IT!

I started doing yin yoga in the evenings, which is AMAZING. I always feel better, in every part of my life, when I do this regularly. And it's been a long time since I've done it. (We had such a good talk about this on the Self Care call this week, how we can know how much a thing helps us and still not do it, and how twisty that can feel)

Monday night, while doing yin yoga, after a warm bath, with crystal bowl music playing, feeling SO RELAXED AND OPEN, this idea floated in. It is, I think, exactly the idea I needed, in the most practical sense, to know what to do next. So I have been working on it all week.

What am I learning/How do I feel about this?

I feel so optimistic and positive and confident. I feel excited not just to have the thing I want, but to do the work to get there. It feels like a fun creative project.

What do I need now?

Last night was the first night this week I had some resistance to the yin yoga. I didn't want to do those long holds, my mind wasn't focusing, my body felt uncomfortable. What I need is to remember that my resistance is natural and to bring it into the practice. Lay there and feel my feelings if I can't do the poses. Keep asking " What do I need?" and bring those things in to make this a more welcoming space for whoever I'm at.

For example, last night I felt uncomfortable where parts of my skin were rubbing against the carpet in a bad way. I knew I'd be more comfortable if I put my pilates mat down. But I really like doing yoga just on the carpet beside my bed because it feels so simple. The pilates mat is downstairs, I didn't want to go down and get it, AND my cat scratches at it so hard, it would be destroyed if I left it in an easy-to-access place. I really wanted this practice to be SIMPLE to go to - like just using the carpet, with a few pillows from my bed.

I am going to have to figure out a way to incorporate the pilates mat that feels simple enough to not become a barrier AND protects the mat from my cat.

Things like that that seem so small they shouldn't matter really can block us from doing the things we want to do.

What does my dream need now?

For me to do ALL THE THINGS that have me feeling REALLY ME - creative, inspired, energized. All those colours and art that were flying around when I met it in the Dream Lab - now they are arranging themselves as a path. Saying THIS IS THE PATH. I get it.

Taking all of this into account, my focus for the next week is:

Believe in my creative magic.

Dream Book members:

Come to the forum to share your Dream Status Report or start a conversation about whatever you're working with.

Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.

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Self Coaching

At therapy last week I asked my therapist for help with something - something that is just feeling stuck and I am not sure what to do with it.

And she tossed it right back at me, lol.

She said “I think you have a lot of practices with your work, that work for this kind of thing. And usually when you feel stuck you make a commitment to show up and be with it every day until you work through it.”

She’s right. The times when I’ve been the most stuck, or wanted to make a big change that felt out of reach - I do a daily coaching session with myself. And I commit to keep doing the daily coaching until I reach a certain goal.

I am starting a new journal, and starting fresh with Dream Book, which is what I’ll do as the “self coaching”.

I feel so excited about keeping this up over the summer, when the early mornings are warm enough to bring a smoothie and an iced coffee to the park for journaling.

It’s so interesting to me that I was struggling SO HARD about getting into my Dream Book earlier this week, and now I am dreaming of making more space for it in my morning routines.

Like - I can't really explain how this LIGHTS ME UP to think of a summer of "Dream Book picnics" to start my day. I'm thinking of the different parks I'll go to. Wondering if I need to get new art supplies, lol.

I'm really looking forward to this, and having things to look forward to is SO IMPORTANT.

Come dream with us

 

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OK haha I see why this was so hard

Yesterday I was writing about how “interesting” it is that it’s been SO HARD for me to work with my Dream Book.

And then… I did it.

I opened my Dream Book, set to make a new Dream Page.

And I re-read the 1 Dream Pages I had in there.

And… oh wow yes I see why it was so hard for me to open this journal.

When my husband left me in September, and then my step-son suddenly developed a life-threatening illness and was in the hospital for almost 4 months… I created a new Dream Page.

It was my fall/winter “liminal space dreams”.

I was dreaming of finding my way through all of this. I did the Dream Lab and saw myself crying a lot all winter… and then in the spring my tears would melt, and there would be a river there which I could float away on, to my new life.

And re-visiting this page is like WHOA. I found my way through SO MUCH.

And I am SO PROUD of how I did it. I updated this page with how I feel now, where I am now, and all the things I am so proud of myself for. I journaled about things I have learned, the ways that a divorce kind of throws all of your stuff at you and leaves you with no choice but to work through it on your own.

And I journaled about all the ways that I feel like a different person now, even though I am not “through” this and I am sure things will keep changing. (The best advice I got about divorce is to remember that your perspective will change, radically and often. So don’t assume that anything you think is REALLY what you think.)

Anyway, WHOA.

Dreams do touch on all of our most vulnerable places.

And so sometimes we need that space to resist and avoid, because deep down that’s how we are preparing.

Because when I finally did open this up and start to work with it, it felt like the right time. I don’t think I was ready any sooner.

*** And as long as we keep SHOWING UP and doing what we CAN do (like how I was doing “creative dream practice things” but was also avoiding opening my Dream Book) we will find our way through.

People tell me sometimes that they come to live calls, or watch replays, but don’t look at the Dream Book lessons, and they feel kind of sheepish about it. But there isn’t a “right way” to do any of this.

There are a lot of “ways in” because there is no “one way in”.

Just keep showing up!

Come dream with us

 

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Looking For The Way In

I want a more ALIVE creative dream practice.

I want to feel more deeply connected to my dreams, and to the version of myself I want to become next.

I want to be deeper in my creative flow.

I have space for this. I can’t think of anything I need…

Except a WAY IN.

Because I am sitting here.

I pulled a tarot card.

I lit incense and a candle.

I’ve got a new sketchbook plus my journals and art supplies aplenty and…

I don’t know the way in.

I mean - this is what the Dream Book program is, lol. Ways in, prompts, starting points.

So what is the problem?

It’s hard to start.

It’s vulnerable and awkward.

This “new dream”… it’s kind of nebulous. I have named some parts of it but a lot of it feels unclear.

And I keep opening up my Dream Book to work on it and…

Well, is it resistance? Procrastination? Fear? Waiting for the “right time”?

I have coached SO MANY PEOPLE through this.

And yet I keep falling into it myself.

But of course I do!

THIS IS THE PROCESS.

This is how we get “ready” (in quotes because we’re always ready and rarely feel ready)

I AM IN THE PROCESS.

I made Dream Book the way I did, with all the short videos and step-by-step so that you can just DO ONE THING and those things will build on each other and at some point you’ll be in your flow with it…

I trust that.

AND

Somehow I am not doing it.

This is just such an interesting dynamic.

And here I am - I have a few hours set aside to do this and instead of doing it I am journaling about how interesting it it that I am NOT doing it.

This IS how we work through it.

By STAYING WITH it. Staying with the thoughts and feelings that come up when we’re NOT doing the thing we want to be doing.

THIS IS THE WORK.

Triangle Dream Compass

Remember the compass of Creative Dream Alchemy. So often we want Outer Work to be the direction we are focused on, but that’s just not where we are.

BEING where we ARE and doing the work that is there, is the way to get to where we want to be.

Which means my options right now are:

I am going to actually DO Dream Book. I’m on the website. I’m going to re-watch the video for The Dream Page and start a NEW Dream Page. the last few months I feel like I have refined my dreams and opened up to new ones, and I’m learning about what I want my life to look and feel like - and I want to capture all of this on a new Dream Page.

And whichever one you do remember: All you need is THE WAY IN.

You don't need to see the whole path.

All of these WAYS IN help you get into your Creative Dream Practice.

One you're IN IT - you'll see new options and possibilities.

Come dream with us

 

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Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

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I am ready for bigger things

Mantra: I am ready for bigger things

This is the mantra I got in this week’s Dream Book journaling + alchemy kit: I am ready for bigger things.

First: Holy crap I am at WEEK TWENTY?! It’s hard to believe I’ve been doing this for 20 weeks. I love it.

I still feel like I “just started” re-doing all of these.

I AM READY FOR BIGGER THINGS.

It keeps amazing me how the right mantra finds me at the right time.

I am breathing this one in and it fills my body like helium… I feel light.

Like I can float up into bigger things, and not “work my ass off to get there” which is the vibe I can tend towards, if I am not intentional about HOW I am holding my intentions.

How does it feel to you?

This one can easily feel uncomfortable, and sitting with that discomfort can show you things that your dream wants you to know.

When it comes to “dreaming bigger” and “thinking bigger” our toxic culture impacts us in what the ways we define what is BIGGER and MORE VALUABLE.

Our creative dreams always want to bring us back to what is true for us.

So listen to YOU. Listen to YOUR dreams. No one else has to understand what “bigger things” is for you.

Leaving a high paying job and fancy life to life a more creative and fulfilling life can be “bigger”, you know?

Come dream with us

 

Dream Book members:

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Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

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Creating Self Care Protocols to Support Yourself In Becoming The Version Of You Who Can Do Your Dream

 

I don’t believe in fake it till you make it OR hustling your way to your dream.

I believe in healing, growing, playing and creating your way there.

So self care plays a huge role in your ability to create more of what you want in your life.

Self care increases our capacity for creativity, intuitive wisdom, courage, momentum... everything!

But the kind of self care that you, your current-day-self needs may be different from the kind of self care that your future-already-has-your-biggest-dream-self needs.

Incorporating more of those next-level self care practices into your current life can help you find new ways to overcome the obstacles... and helps you be more nourished and resourced in the present.

Creating Self Care Protocols to Support Yourself In Becoming The Version Of You Who Can Do Your Dream is happening Wednesday, May 15 at 1:00 Central (North America).

The replay will be available a few hours after the live call is finished.

Members: get the call details here. Not a member? Join us here.

Come dream with us

 

Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership members:

Come to the forum to share your thoughts or start a conversation about whatever you're working with.

Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.

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Be relaxed and open about my dreams[Weekly Dream Status Report]

Note: This is a post about my daily practice with my Creative Dreams - I often link to the tools, courses and processes I use which are available to Dream Book members. If you're not a member, find out more + join us here.

On Fridays I do my Dream Status Report which is a series of prompts I use every week to help me have more clarity, momentum and groundedness on my path. You can do them with me (Dream Book members: come post yours in the forum!)!

🦄⚡️Creative Dream Incubator Weekly Coaching Call is today!!

Hope to see you there - or catch the replay over the weekend! (Call details are here, the reply will be on that page a few hours after we're done.) And after the call I"ll start a thread in the forum to share your plans for the week and as a space for accountability and support.

My Dream Status Report for this week:

PART ONE:

My dream is: I want to get an RV or camper van and travel… WITH MY CAT BEAR!!!! Create a comfy cozy home on wheels, and write + make art on the road while we have adventures. AND... I have a new creative dream which I am still not ready to talk about. AND... there is a sense of stability I had when I was married that I don't feel now which I want to create for myself, in a new way - still lots to explore with that one.

I want it because: It feels so sweet and makes me happy. And the new dream, which is more about art I want to make, feels like it will expand and energize my whole life.

When I have it I will feel: I think I will feel so happy, free and thrilled with my life. And also more stable and grounded.

PART TWO:

Invite the soul of your dream in (using the Dream Lab practice) to help you with the rest of the prompts.

My dream shows up as... I pick one part of my "big dream", the thing I am most working on right now, and it shows up as an inflatable mattress floating on water. I lay on it, feeling the sun on my body, and I feel soooooo relaxed.

So interesting! Because I DO NOT feel relaxed about how to go about this thing.

PART THREE:

Last week’s focus was: Remember that my dream is alive, my dream believes in me.

What happened in the last week?

I had my 50th birthday party! It was so good! And the "recovery" was longer than I thought it would be. I mean - considering there was no alcohol at the party and it was over at 9:15, lol. But just the ENERGY of getting ready for the party, having my first birthday without my ex-partner (he took my birthday off work every year, and we would have a really sweet day), starting a new decade... it's a lot to process.

And, my dream felt FAR AWAY a lot of this week. I remembered the "Remember that my dream is alive, my dream believes in me." but felt "Yeah but WHERE IS IT THEN because it feels so far away"

Reminded myself that when we feel discouraged - this is a part of the work, too. This is natural. This is a part of most dreams. But none of that felt encouraging.

BUT my options are to: be with and work through this discouragement or give up. So...

Also, I went to the dentist for my check-up and my gums are getting better! They said over the last few years they've seen in improvement each time which felt really good. A few years ago they were worried I would need a surgery and now it seems I don't. So - sometimes working on having better habits does create better outcomes!

What am I learning/How do I feel about this?

I feel a bit discouraged. I feel like I am at the bottom of a steep hill and it's so hard to take each step.

For some reason I am not looking behind me and noticing how the hill ahead of me is so much smaller than the ones I've already climbed.

What do I need now?

Then I remember how my dream showed up as this inflatable mattress/raft. And how relaxed and open I felt laying on it. Maybe I need to do the things that help me feel relaxed and open?

What does my dream need now?

Sunshine! To be out in the sun.

Taking all of this into account, my focus for the next week is:

Thinking of that "relaxed and open" vibe, laying on an air mattress floating in water. After such a long, cold, rainy spring we are having nice weather and this makes a difference! I want to go on daily bike rides through parks - that has the same feeling for me.

So my focus is: Be relaxed and open about my dreams. (Since this is NOT how I am actually feeling about my dreams, I will do a daily meditation/journaling practice around this, and see what that brings)

 

Dream Book members:

Come to the forum to share your Dream Status Report or start a conversation about whatever you're working with.

Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.

Check out the calendar of upcoming calls. Make a plan to join us live or catch a replay.

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Things won’t always go as planned, this is disappointing AND an opportunity to create something better

(I wrote this post a few weeks ago)

Seven years ago today, I got married. Today, I am not speaking to my husband. We are separated and plan to divorce, at the stage where getting the paperwork figured out feels like too much so just leaving it for now.

I honestly thought I was getting married for life, but here we are.

Things often don’t go as planned. I feel like we can’t say enough: it doesn’t matter what happens in your life YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE.

There is so much in our culture about this. So much judgement and shame and this unconscious push to try to make our lives look as perfect as possible. This is traumatizing.

Life is a mystery. The world is a mess. We’re all doing our best.

I’m finding such surprising gifts in the divorce process. My life is opening up in new ways. I’m turning 50 next week and feel so optimistic about this new chapter in my life.

AND it’s not what I’d planned or aimed for but… what if it’s better?

Re-reading this a week later:

That “It’s not what I’d planned or aimed for but… what if it’s better?” feels like SUCH A FUCKING CLICHE.

Like a pollyanna take on the pain of how disappointing it is sometimes, to go after a dream wholeheartedly and not have it work out.

Re-reading this a few days after that last update:

Last weekend I shared my birthday cake.

I am IN LOVE with how it turned out...

But it wasn’t what I had planned, lol!

My sister baked it - 5 layers of chocolate lavender cake and FIVE (!) batches of icing, so I’d have plenty to play with. She helped me dye the icing 6 different colours.

I piped different shapes all over the cake, in every colour of the rainbow except purple. I saved purple for last.

The purple was in a larger bag with a larger tip, and I piped this thick purple ribbon over the thick, multi-textured piped rainbow of icing…. and then this purple ribbon was too heavy, and pulled the rainbows of icing off the cake as it slide down the sides.

Yikes!

I had a flash inspiration of a “rainbow galaxy” smear of all of this thick icing. It felt like when I am doing intuitive painting and I tend to smear colours together a lot, like I am letting them play with each other.

So I grabbed a knife and did it.

There were big hunks of icing falling down which I piled on top of the cake as I spread out the sides to create this rainbow gradient kind of thing.

Then I had quite a bit of yellow in a bag with a nice thin piping tip so I added the yellow lines and….

It FELT like I wanted this cake to feel.

The original piped shapes, which were sooooo cuuuuuute, didn’t quite have the ZING of it feeling the way I wanted it to feel.

So, my cake was a disaster for a second there and then it did end up turning out better than I’d hoped.

My sister said: “It’s like your life! It fell apart but with the magic of creativity you turned it into something better!”

And now I am remembering that this is actually NOT Pollyanna at all.

This means FACING and BEING WITH the disappointment. Working with it and growing through it, to find your next step.

Accepting that disappointment is a companion on the path, and learning how to find the lessons and opportunities in it.

(Creative Dream Incubator members: there is an alchemy process for working with disappointment, right here. It's three videos with two different journaling sheets, for different ways of working with disappointment)

Come dream with us

 

Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership members:

Come to the forum to share your thoughts or start a conversation about whatever you're working with.

Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.

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I can’t take this step today

Some of the steps towards a dream are boring and some are scary. Sometimes you need to be your BRAVEST and MOST ALIGNED SELF to take a step, and sometimes, that step comes along on a way when you are not that version of you. Not even close. That’s where I am today.

So. What am I going to do?

I feel upset that I can’t do the thing I want to do but when I look at it, my head hurts. I am so far away from the version of me who can do it.

Can I accept that I feel upset about not being able to do it AND accept that I feel really really off today? Like the opposite of brave and aligned?

Those two feelings are conflicting a bit. The uncomfortable feeling and then the resistance to the uncomfortable feeling.

In this moment, all I know is that pushing myself is not the answer.

If I can’t seem to access any other answers, can I try to access another question?

It comes to mind immediately: What do I need?

I wrote this a few weeks ago.

Coming back to it today I am thinking of how the step that’s in front of us is not always the step we want to take.

I had an Outer Work step I had WANTED to take on that day, but the actual step that was in front of me to take was Inner Work.

My taking THAT step, and doing the Inner Work that was in front of me to do, I brought myself closer to being able to take the Outer Work step that I wanted to take.

We do tend to want to focus on certain steps, and totally ignore/avoid others but the path only works if we take ALL the steps.

Come dream with us

 

Dream Book members:

Come to the forum to share your thoughts or start a conversation about whatever you're working with.

Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.

Check out the calendar of upcoming calls. Make a plan to join us live or catch a replay.

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Sometimes it’s awkward and embarrassing

On our Marketing as a Creative + Spiritual practice call last week, we talked about how awkward and embarrassing this work can be.

A few times over the years I have talked about feeling cringy about promoting myself and would get messages back from people telling me not to feel that way.

I know they all meant well, but that is just not helpful.

We feel how we feel! Pretending we don’t is a waste of energy.

Plus avoiding your feelings gives them a lot of power over you. Feeling your feelings, and processing your feelings GIVES YOU CLUES about how to get what you want.

So, we made space to feel awkward and embarrassed and found ways through it.

Then, last week, I got this idea to do a promotion for my 50th birthday.

Because this feels like a Big Deal kind of birthday, I wanted to ask for what I wanted: help spreading the word about the Creative Dream Incubator.

Which felt SO awkward and embarrassing.

So this is how I handled it: I gave myself loads of time to feel how I felt AND take little steps.

On Tuesday morning, I went out for coffee with the goal of writing a rough copy of what I wanted to say. And brainstorm ideas for an image to share with it.

I do not usually spend this much time on a single post/email. Because I felt embarrassed, I gave myself more time to work through the feelings and in so doing - I also gave myself more time to write the best post possible. It was a win/win.

So Tuesday morning after a few VERY AWKWARD writings, I ended up with good rough draft! And I got the idea to take a photo of myself in front of the flower garlands I was making to decorate for my birthday party, which felt exactly like what I was going for - celebratory.

Then I sat with it, and came back on Wednesday to update it, and read through it and notice how it landed in my body.

Did I feel ready to ask for help in such a public way? What would help me feel ready?

I was already feeling so much more ready to do it... and I still have three more days to get ready, emotionally, to post this thing.

This is how we do things we don’t feel ready for. We break it down into teeny steps and then PRACTICE THEM.

Come dream with us

 

Dream Book members:

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Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.

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I trust my power

This is the mantra I got in this week’s Dream Book journaling + alchemy kit: I trust my power.

I breathe deep and just sit with it. It's like, the deeper I go inside me, the more I can find my power.

When I feel connected to it - yes I trust my power.

But am I "feeling powerful" and "trusting my power" as my usual state of being?

No, I don't think so.

That's interesting to notice.

I do feel competent, but POWERFUL has a different quality and then TRUSTING MY POWER has another different quality still.

Trusting my power feels like: I am not rushing or pushing or forcing. I am not betraying my values. I know I can do this MY way in MY time. I won't deplete myself in the process...

It puts a new spin in how much I have slowed down in the last few years.

Partially the overwhelm of the pandemic and partially peri-menopause. And I was doing a lot of exploration around how much capitalism determined how fast I moved, and how much "this is genuinely and sustainably how much I can work" determined how fast I moved.

But, when I sit with this... I trust my power... I don't feel any need to move faster.

Come dream with us

 

Dream Book members:

Come to the forum to share your thoughts or start a conversation about whatever you're working with.

Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.

Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.

Check out the calendar of upcoming calls. Make a plan to join us live or catch a replay.

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Remember that my dream is alive, my dream believes in me.[Weekly Dream Status Report]

Note: This is a post about my daily practice with my Creative Dreams - I often link to the tools, courses and processes I use which are available to Dream Book members. If you're not a member, find out more + join us here.

On Fridays I do my Dream Status Report which is a series of prompts I use every week to help me have more clarity, momentum and groundedness on my path. You can do them with me (Dream Book members: come post yours in the forum!)!

🦄⚡️Creative Dream Incubator Weekly Coaching Call is today!!

Hope to see you there - or catch the replay over the weekend! (Call details are here, the reply will be on that page a few hours after we're done.) And after the call I"ll start a thread in the forum to share your plans for the week and as a space for accountability and support.

My Dream Status Report for this week:

PART ONE:

My dream is: I want to get an RV or camper van and travel… WITH MY CAT BEAR!!!! Create a comfy cozy home on wheels, and write + make art on the road while we have adventures. AND... I have a new creative dream which I am still not ready to talk about. AND... there is a sense of stability I had when I was married that I don't feel now which I want to create for myself, in a new way - still lots to explore with that one.

I want it because: It feels so sweet and makes me happy. And the new dream, which is more about art I want to make, feels like it will expand and energize my whole life.

When I have it I will feel: I think I will feel so happy, free and thrilled with my life. And also more stable and grounded - I realized that part over this last week.

PART TWO:

Invite the soul of your dream in (using the Dream Lab practice) to help you with the rest of the prompts.

My dream shows up as... a drawing of a green hill against a blue sky on a sunny day. It feels peaceful and reassuring.

PART THREE:

Last week’s focus was: Keep taking steps. I feel like I am in a bit of a boring part with my dream and that's ok.

What happened in the last week?

I'm looking back and... I don't know. It feels like a pretty averages week. I took steps, I got stuck, I got un-stuck, lol.

I've been thinking about how I have been self employed for so long, I don't panic like I used to when things don't go like I'd hoped. I do have this internal sense of stability and trust. I really feel like I've integrated the idea that I just have to keep doing things, whereas earlier on if I did a thing and it didn't go as hoped, it felt so scary because what if nothing ever went well????

And of course this is a scary economy to be self employed in! But I realized this week - it's not really less scary for employed people. The job I had before this felt SO secure, but a lot of those old co-workers have lost their jobs. And I was doing a really specific thing there, not something that would be easy to transfer to something else, ie - if I had lost my job it might be really hard to find another one.

I have been getting ready for my birthday party - I am turning 50 on Saturday. (I am going to send out an email about it on Saturday with some photos because my sister and I are working on an amazing cake and I've been making a ton of tissue paper flower decorations)

I don't want to be overwhelmed at my party, and I still get anxious from "doing too much" (I mean who decides what is enough?) so I've been slowing cleaning the loft and getting ready so there's not too much left to do tomorrow. I am usually pretty tidy, but doing a DEEP CLEAN feels too good, you know?

What am I learning/How do I feel about this?

I am not in a place of putting this in any kind of succinct way right now! I think I am "in process" in so many things, there is so much growth and shifting happening. I'll just stay with it for now.

What do I need now?

Still: focus on self care. And making more time for meditation and journaling - I mean it's ridiculous how much this is the message I get. More more more more MORE! But I am continually called deeper into the work... and I am habitually resisting going deeper.

What does my dream need now?

The green hill kind of "breathes". Maybe my dream needs me to remember it is alive?

Oh wow that makes me cry a bit.

Taking all of this into account, my focus for the next week is:

Remember that my dream is alive, my dream believes in me.

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Taking Little Possible Steps Even When They Feel Like Nothing

I joined a CRAFTIVISM group, which I was SO excited about while also feeling not sure how, exactly, I could contribute.

And you know - it can be uncomfortable to join a thing NOT KNOWING how you could contribute or participate. But the organizers were so warm and welcoming and had an attitude of “We’ll listen to everyone’s ideas and figure this out”. They were open to hearing ideas and growing the group together.

So, I went, and worked on an embroidery of a Palestinian flag. The group wanted to collect handmade items to raffle off to raise funds for relief efforts in Gaza.

The flag was beautiful but I was feeling kind of like - why bother? It’s so small in the face of the intensity of the bombs falling. And also feeling like - well it feels good to gather with people and do SOMETHING. And I had gone to some of the rallies, but sitting together and crafting is really more my speed.

But still, I had this sense that embroidering a flag, with really fine threads because that’s how I embroider, so it takes a loooooong time, is not quite how I want to do my craftivism. Like hours and hours of work for... how much money could this possibly raise? That there must be something more impactful I could do.

I say that to highlight - we often feel this way about wanting to do a thing.

We can see a way we could do it, (I embroider A LOT so I had all the stuff on hand to make this flag) but that’s not necessarily the BEST way we could do it.

It’s uncomfortable to take the POSSIBLE step instead of waiting for the opportunity to take our BEST step, but it’s in taking the possible step that we actually get to a place where a better step becomes possible.

Because now I am starting to see new ways of engaging with crafting as a form of activism - ways I could not have seen if I hadn’t starting by just doing a thing that felt possible.

BECAUSE I joined in and start doing stuff, I saw other stuff I could do!

And then when the Craftivist group decided to do a CRAFT BOMBING in one of my favourite parks downtown, I knew exactly what to do.

I got a bunch of cheap broadcloth and sewed these big flags...

I made two flags, which took way less time than the one (small!) embroidered flag I had started with.

This is VERY messy - I cut and pasted the fabrics (with a glue stick) like collage. Then did a quick zig zag to sew them down, this is not actual quilting, which would also take a loooong time to do.

So this takes less time and is more impactful.

BUT I don't know that I would have done this, if I hadn't started with that small possible step, you know?

I think using our creative gifts to support our values and support the work of creating the world we want to live in is some of the most powerful work we can do. It was so great to see everyone's creations as we put them up all over the park and I can't wait to see what we do next.

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I‘ve hit a rough patch

I was hoping the hardest part of my divorce would be right right when he left, and then it would get easier in time. Of course life doesn’t work that way, there are ups and downs. Nothing is linear!

And a part of me is like - this isn’t about your creative dreams! Don’t write about it here! OMG don't be so embarrassing!

But the work of showing up for your creative dream practice DOES include how you navigate life’s challenges.

There is this tug-of-war between your current life and your dreams.

And sometimes current life takes over. Sometimes this is for really good reasons and sometimes this is for incredibly shitty reasons.

And the work is to keep figuring out - how do I practice my creative dreams, even here?

And remembering that creative dreaming as a practice includes so many things.. healing, creativity, courage, growth.

Lately I’ve had a TON of resistance to the conflicting feelings I have about my ex and our situation. The conflicts are just too big for me to carry - I don’t mean conflicts with him, I mean conflicts within me about my different feelings.

We did a call on Working With Conflicting Feelings because this isn’t unusual when it comes to dreams...

But I don’t want to do that.

I want for my conflicting feelings to just disappear on their own without me having to sit with them or work through anything....

Luckily, after sitting with this for a few minutes with my journal open, my desire to work THROUGH things outweighed this resistance to NOT work through anything.

I drew a little diagram of me and wrote all of my feelings where they are in my body. This helped me get a new perspective and find a little acceptance.

Then I laid down and breathed for a while. Which gave even more perspective and acceptance.

We don't have to SOLVE things, just making a little space to BE WITH them can help them dissipate enough that our creative dreams can win that tug-of-war.

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Creative Dreaming in Hard Times

I was taking a bath and thinking about why things have been feeling SO HARD. I’ve been really anxious, and having a harder-than-usual time of managing my anxiety for the last few weeks.

And you know what? Sometimes it's like I forget how fucked up things are. I'm trying so hard to just go on in my little life I forget about these brutal times we are living through.

I have not recovered from the pandemic, in terms of my mental health and cognitive functioning

AND I’m in perimenopause, which has been hard for me. AND now we can add on top of that getting a divorce that I hadn’t seen coming. And at the same time navigating my step-son’s sudden life-threatening illness. AND record inflation! Becoming single didn’t just double my cost of living, my mortgage was renewed (yikes!) and condo fees went up considerably too. Along with everything else increasing.

So that’s four pretty major things, all happening on top of each other. Or colliding with each other. JUST IN MY OWN LIFE.

But what about when I peek outside my life? We've never had wars and genocides be LIVE STREAMED like this before. This is traumatizing all around. And the brutal police response to protests in the US.

I keep seeing people complaining in my city about how all the homeless shelters are full of asylum seekers and there's no room for Canadians. I really don't think it's radical to say - everyone deserves a safe space to live. And having these conversations in the backdrop of so many empty buildings downtown since most offices never went back to 100% in-office work AND so many businesses closed....

Our political and economic systems continue to fail. It's such a long, slow, traumatizing and expensive collapse.

This is the world we are dreaming in.

I wonder why I am anxious?

There are moments when I feel such incredible peace and trust it’s amazing.

And most of the time I still believe that a better future is inevitable - both for me in my life and for all of us collectively.

AND managing anxiety takes more work right now.

I don’t believe that putting our creative dreams aside is a good plan.

I have the new dream I have talked about - getting an RV or camper and traveling with my cat Bear. This feels like TOO MUCH to contemplate actually DO in the near future, but dreaming of it happening a little further down the road is SO sweet. And I need sweetness. And the question: How do I set myself up to make this work financially? feels expansive whereas the question: How do I make more money to survive record inflation that is actually just un-checked corporate greed? feels panicky.

Creative dreaming is nourishing and generative.

And we need more nourishing and generative when things are hard!

I also have this other dream I haven’t shared details of yet. But that’s something that I do plan to start doing this year - taking baby steps anyway. It feels creative and expansive and energizing to think about and plan for.

I am so excited to get everything in place to start taking those baby steps.

This excitement and enthusiasm can coexist with the hard stuff, and bring more joy.

We deserve more joy. Always. But especially in the hard times.

If I put this new dream off until I felt ready - I would just be delaying joy.

MUCH NEEDED joy.

And our creative dreams can show us new possibilities for how to live.

Creative Dreams open doors that we can't see from where we are right now.

So, if there is something you are putting off, can I please encourage you to dive in now?

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We can do this!

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