
(That's Bear and I doing one of our favourite forms of dreaming... I am sitting in my new comfy chair working on an embroidery project and Bear is sitting on the back of the chair, looking out the window, watching the world go by)
These are times for DREAMING.
For believing and embodying that a better world is possible for all of us.
This is not easy!
These are times when your dreams need you to go DEEPER.
Going deeper is pretty much always very scary and very difficult to do. We almost never understand how POWERFUL and LAYERED our resistance to going deeper can be.
Over the last 15 years, I have been exploring this dynamic and looking for ways to engage with it. Looking for how to create the smallest and most accessible ways in.
Now that I have come to this place where I have all this experience and have built entire libraries of tools to support this work… now we come to a place where everything just got harder.
We have arrived at place where our dreams, our souls, and our futures need us to go so much DEEPER still.
It's scary. AND we are ready for this.
Here’s HOW to go deeper:
Instead of working with your dream as a thing to manifest or achieve - work with your dream as your PARTNER. Listen to the soul of your dream and let it lead you sometimes (or even most of the time, if you're ready for the advanced work of dreaming).
Have a commitment to SHOW UP for that work in the smallest possible way as consistently as you can.
(This is already what we're doing in the membership! Especially The Dream Lab, Dream Book and Dream Book 2026 are all working from the perspective of PARTNERING with your dream)
And then:
Be checking in regularly to reflect on how this is going and notice what your dream is asking of you next.
Weekly: Dream Status Report
Monthly: New Moon Intention Setting Ritual
And at the same time:
The space between where you are and where you want to be is an alchemical process. Treat it as such!
This means: every time you are working with your dream... BE WITH whatever is there. Don't try to deny or avoid the hard parts. Just BE WITH whatever is there, if that's an idea or motivation or fear or exhaustion. Whatever it is, tend to that, and this brings you deeper into that alchemical process.
For example:
I know what I want to do this morning, and I feel a little lost.
I am tempted to push through and “just do it”
But I know that I need to go deeper into the ALCHEMY of Creative Dreaming which means I need to be with myself, where I actually am, which is lost. So I need to use The Un-Sticking Station process to BE WITH it.
Ok.
Hi Lost.
I see myself. In a meadow/field/maybe the foothills of mountains.
So there sure is a lot of empty space here, hey?
Yeah, so many ways I could go! I have no idea which path to take.
Is that true?
What do you mean?
If it REALLY true that you don’t know which path to take, or is there something else going on?
My lost self bursts into tears.
No, it’s not true. I know which path to take. It’s kind of lit up over there. But… I’m so scared I just freeze and then when I freeze I forget what I know.
Yeah I get that.
This is so stressful! Like I have the fear about the path, but I am kind of pushing that down to keep it away from me. And then I have the freeze. And then I have fear that I’ll never un-freeze. I’ll never know how to act.
I am tempted to offer some advice about how “pushing things down” isn’t an effective way to deal with them but that doesn’t feel appropriate here.
What do you need? Is there anything I can do?
I just want to lie down and cry.
Let’s do it! I spread out a blanket.
Lying down on the soft blanket in the meadow, now it feels like a meadow, now I am in the perspective of my lost self instead of engaging with this part of me.
And now the meadow is in the foothills and I am worried about Nazis marching over the mountains and finding me.
Now I am thinking about all the people in danger, everywhere in the world. The sheer terror of the capitalist/imperialist machine and it’s unending greed and depravity.
I know the path ahead and I see how fully valid my fears are, and how fully valid it is to freeze in the face of them.
And I know how brave it is, to face them anyway. To accept the freeze that will inevitably happen. To know I will thaw. To trust that I I’ll gather what I need to walk the path anyway.
I feel all these different terrors roaming around in my body.
I’m safe here, in this meadow, for now. I don’t know when the Nazis might come over the mountains and bring the terror here. And I do know that everyone isn’t safe. I feel my values pushing back against my fear… not wanting me to give in it.
Suddenly I am back in myself as in the me who is trying to engage with the lost part of me, instead of being embodied in the lost part of me.
I want to know more about the path that is lit up. What makes that path scary? I mean, given that everything everywhere is scary, what is particularly scary about this particular path?
I offer my lost/scared self some tea from a thermos and a cupcake. (ALL parts of me respond well to treats)
There’s just no place to hide on that path. And not as many places to stop and rest as I would like.
Oh. That does sound scary. I’m also curious about not being able to stop and rest. Do you see everything I am doing to really respect my actual capacity and move at a human pace, trying to detangle from all the ways I have adopted colonialism/capitalism’s pace and find my actual pace?
Yeah, I appreciate that. This is different. It’s like I need to BE who I really AM, like… I don’t know how else to say this but ALL THE FUCKING WAY.
Oh. Yes. I get it.
That’s actually what is on the other side of all of the work I have been doing, understanding what it means to decolonize my relationship with myself. As a white/settler person there are all these ways I can just… check out. I’d have to stop doing that.
Suddenly both my lost self and the part of me who is trying to engage with the lost self come together and see it clearly.
That path is not about what I DO next, which I thought it was.
It’s about how I BE next.
My dreams and my soul and my life are all asking me to BE my next level self.
I’ve been doing all this Inner Work and Dream Work and this feels safe. It’s all happening in the comfort of my own world.
The question, the real question, now is: how to I bring that into how I AM, in the Outer World?
It feels like there is something that I’ve been working on, on the inside, that needs to be embodied on the outside. And I can’t quite put my finger on WHAT it is.
My mentor/witch/coach self steps in to offer some next steps to explore:
Dream Self meditation
Maybe even the Dream Self Challenge from Dream Book (this is further into Dream Book in content that is released in month 6)
And... just sit with the question.
Creative Dream Incubator Coaching Membership members:
Come to the forum to share your Dream Status Report or start a conversation about whatever you're working with.
Do the Hello Day Energy Clearing + Intention Setting Practice (from Dream Book 2026)
Get your next Dream Book lesson or get a weekly journaling + alchemy kit.
Go the Library of Creative Dream Alchemy to find a practice that fits for where you are or use the Dream Lab if you're not sure where to start.
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