Last week I wrote about The Pristine Dream Syndrome and how it’s so much easier to admire a big sparkly far-away dream than it is to dig in and look at what actually stands between you and progress and figure out how to change it.
Often what stands between you and your dream is a story.
A story about not having enough time or money or support or opportunity. A story about impossibility.
The stories usually have true elements in them: like you really don’t have any spare time, or money.
Now, the story itself is not true: not having any space money or time doesn’t mean you can’t start baby-stepping your way towards what you want.
But, because there is that kernel of truth in the story, and because your inner critics have been whispering it in your ear for so long that it feels familiar – it feels true for you.
And because it feels true for you you don’t question it.
And your dream machine just shuts down right there.
BUT – you can question the story. You can explore it. You can play with it.
And as you start to question the story something amazing happens – you learn that your story is malleable.
It is disorienting and strange and miraculous and exciting all at once when long-held beliefs turn into dust right before your eyes as you see them for what they are: bullshit stories.
Just ten years ago I was convinced… ABSOLUTELY CONVINCED that there was no way for me to make the income I wanted doing the creative/spiritual work I wanted to do.
This was before online classes had become popular and there wasn’t a life coaching “industry” the way there is today.
I was teaching classes, leading healing circles and doing spiritual counselling on evenings and weekends and just grateful I got to do that work and that I had a great 9-5 job that supported me.
Trying to figure out how to make a living doing what I really wanted to be doing felt impossible and, after spending my 20s as a starving artist I was so grateful for the lifestyle that my job provided and not in a hurry to go back to starving artist mode.
Either do what you love, or make a good income.
I didn’t see that there was another option and, ten years ago I was still convinced that meant that there wasn’t another option.
Now I’m celebrating seven years of being 100% financially supported by the Creative Dream Incubator. It’s not the biggest business out there, but at this point I make more money than I used to make at that job that I thought I’d be in forever. And I’ve got big plans for the future as I continue to question my stories about what is and is not possible for me.
Questioning your story changes your story.
It’s not about bulldozing over your fears or figuring out how to shut up your inner critic.
It’s about moving towards wholeness.
Finding the real truth that lives underneath your stories.
Making space for your inner soul qualities to shine out a little more brightly into your outer world. And then a little brighter, and a little brighter, and a little brighter still.
And before you know it you’re writing new stories for yourself – stories about possibility and creativity and magic. Stories that feel true in your heart. Stories that inspire you. Stories that you can’t wait to live inside of.
It’s about dissolving the un-true stories in the light of your own radiance.
For the whole month of November we’re doing exactly this in the Transformation Station Mastermind group in the Creative Dream Circle.
This means we’ll be digging in together.
Exploring the stories.
Finding the real truth.
Making space for our soul qualities to shine out a little brighter.
Writing new stories.
We start on November 1 with a group coaching call where I’ll lead you through the magical “un-sticking” process. This is where you learn how to meet with and work with your stories.
Then you’ll have two weeks to work with what you learned on that call.
We’ll have another group call on November 15 where you can ask questions, get coaching and support to keep going for another two weeks.
(If you can’t be on the call live you can email me your questions and I’ll give you some advice, ideas and encouragement on the call. And you can still participate in the private forum all month long.)
Transformation takes time.
But if you spend just 10 minutes with your stories every day in November you’ll make remarkable progress.
The Transformation Station Mastermind is open to all Creative Dream Circle members – find out more and join us today!