First I want to say – I’m hosting a (free! online!) Journal Party today with Jamie Ridler and I hope you can either be there live or catch up with us on the recording.

(Jamie is one of the first coaches I met online and has been a real inspiration to me. If you don’t know her yet I promise – you’ll love her.)

(This is from last week in my Year of Dreams Guided Journal + Colouring Collage Kit)

It’s always so fun and nourishing for me to participate in these parties and I think we need this kind of thing right now more than ever.

I’m still thinking a lot about how the online creativity/life coaching culture is developing and how I want to participate in it.

Right now my thoughts are just one big mess. This is always a part of the process for me – when I’m willing to be with the mess I tend to be able to move through it much faster.

But some ideas are starting to become more clear, like how much I want to hold onto what I see as the magic of what is possible for creative people to do online.

And how simple it really is to just stay away from all of that sleazy online business stuff.

And also a piece I don’t totally understand just yet that is pushing to me to share more of my own stories as I live with my dreams and figure out how make space to pursue new dreams.

I think it helps when we feel less alone on this path, and sharing our stories is a way of showing each other that we’re not alone.

Plus the people who are sharing their stories the loudest (or the ones who show up the most often through sponsored stories in my Facebook feed) are sharing stories of growth-growth-growth magic bullets and easy 3-step systems.

I want to see more real stories of living joyfully. Right-size over bigger-bigger-bigger and staying true to what’s in your own heart.

So that’s why I am excited to hang out at the Journal Party with you guys and Jamie Ridler today.

Jamie is one of those people who have been able to harness to possibilities of the internet to create creative communities without even the slightest sniff of manipulative sales tactics or sleaze.

As I said, Jamie is one of the first coaches I met before I started blogging or working online – like 8 years ago. In all that time I’ve seen her show up, every day, and offer her own unique brand of inspiration.

I know when people are starting out they want to know how to build an audience and that’s it: Show up. Offer the things you have to offer.  Invite people to be a part of what you’re doing.

Instead of focusing on making a million dollars, try focusing on showing up a million times.

It’s so simple.

It’s just a lot of work – so much work that you need to be passionate about why you want to build this thing because it’s that passion will sustain you for the long road.

Connecting with kindred spirits along the way helps too.

Again – come hang out with us today!

It’s so uplifting to connect with other people who are moving towards their dreams, whether you can be there live or catch up with us on the recording.

Also – I’m getting married tomorrow.

And I know that the ceremony is important, or it is important to me anyway, but also the commitment has already been made. We’re in it. We are learning to live with each other. I am learning how to be a step parent.

This weekend I made a list of things that needed to be done around the loft. Like vacuuming and laundry and cleaning the bathroom and stuff.

I have never made such a list in my life.

I mean living alone for so long I clean up here and there when I feel like it, or else I clean up everywhere in a mad rush before people are coming over.

And I want us to share household stuff but I also want to not be comparing and measuring – how much did you do? How much did I do?

I’d like it to be more relaxed than that, I would like creating a loving and nourishing home to matter more than having clean floors.

But his parents are coming over for the first time (they live out of town) so I didn’t want to take any chances.

So I wrote the list.

And it was amazing – I felt less overwhelmed as soon as I saw it all written out.

And this is kind of funny – I didn’t have any paper to write the list on. I’d just gone through the last of our printer paper. All I had was this old sketchbook with cheap drawing paper in it, the paper was too thin for the markers I like to use so I had put it into my giveaway box.

So I wrote the list on this sketchbook and realised – oh this will really help make our life together smoother, having a book full of things we need to keep track of.

My first shared journal.

So I wrote the list and then we just worked through it – much faster than I thought we would.

Plus he scrubbed the grout in my shower with a toothbrush and bleach. I never do that.

And when it was time for me to vacuum downstairs I asked his youngest son to take my cat outside for a walk because the vacuum freaks him out. (All of his kids love my cat Starfish, who loves to be taken out for walks on his leash)

He was happy to take the cat out and you know what? He found an honest to goodness four leaf clover while he was out there.

Felt like a good omen for all of us.

PS: The price of the Creative Dream Circle is going up at the end of this week. I never want anyone to feel pressured to join, but if you’ve been thinking of joining I do want you to know about the price change.

When I was finishing high school (and holy crap can I say that having an 18 year old step-daughter who is making all the same choices I made at that age is eye-opening, in a horrifying kind of way) I didn’t know what I wanted to be when I grew up.

I knew I was going to university because my parents didn’t give me another option, which I am very grateful for.

But I didn’t know what to take.

I knew I wanted to be happy and feel free – like not lock in to doing one thing over and over for the rest of my life.

At that time I had not done any art, so I wasn’t thinking about anything creative like that. I thought I would go into journalism. It didn’t feel magical or anything but seemed like it offered some freedom.

I think I thought I’d be traveling around the world and just writing up articles whenever I felt like it.

And then – I don’t remember how or why it happened other than that my mother had sewn most of my clothes when I was growing up so sewing always seemed natural to me – I started to sew.

I remember getting a simple pattern and some cute floral fabric and making a spring dress and being totally hooked.

(I mean 25 years later I am still making myself cute dresses)

I think my creative life was calling to me through the only channel which was open at that time.

So I decided to go into fashion design.

The reality of working in the fashion industry is pretty far away from the joy I feel when making myself cute dresses so that career path did not pan out for me but it taught me everything I needed to know and got me onto the right path.

I believe that it got me onto my right path because I was following inspiration.

The thing I loved most about fashion was pattern design. The class I really excelled in was surface design. After graduating I really wanted to be a textile artist.

Secretly I wanted to be a pattern designer but I didn’t even let myself explore that because it seemed so impossible from where I was.

(And as I said in my blog post earlier this week – this seems so weird to me now, there are lots of things I could have done it was 100% my own self-doubt that stopped me from pursuing this)

I pursued my career as a textile artist which, in a 15 year long and winding story, led to me leading creativity workshops and healing/meditation circles which then led to me starting the Creative Dream Incubator.

In hindsight, one of the best things about my textile art career was that I failed at it so hard.

It was the pain of that failure that set me on the path to learning about how to really get your outer self/life into alignment with your inner truth, how to live your real life.

Because I felt that being an artist was being my true self – that’s why I didn’t want to give up and get a job. But it was a constant struggle.

I knew about affirmations, meditation and visualization and practiced devotedly but it didn’t help. I didn’t know that I was missing the biggest piece – I didn’t understand how healing and transformation actually work.

And that’s what I learned right there amongst the ashes of my failed art career – which quickly became compost to nurture my new creative life.

(I learned this in the context of spiritual healing – but I believe the principles are the same in other modalities.)

And, as an artist, as I was learning about how spiritual healing and transformation work of course I was combining this with the creative process.

The way I was taught was very dry and “head-y” so bringing colour and creativity in was my way of making it all both more grounded and real and more fun and sparkly.

Ultimately, for me the creative process and the spiritual process are the same thing. The creative process is focused on the thing you are creating and the spiritual process is focused on your own self.

You can try to control your art and make it fit into some kind of box and you may be good at that but you’ll still find there’s not a lot of magic in that in the long term.

Just like you can try to control your self and shove your life into some kind of box of what you think it’s supposed to look like. You absolutely have the power to do that – but you won’t find a lot of magic there.

(Sometimes we get caught in that with our dream work too – when we’re pursuing the dream we think we should want, instead of listening to our hearts about what our real dreams are – but as long as you stay in the process and keep showing up for your dreams the best you can, you’ll end up on the right path, just like I did with my fashion career.)

The real magic is in allowing things to grow and evolve into what they really are.

There is so much power in that. Which is kind of funny given how it comes out of a state of surrender.

So, twenty years ago I set out with this dream to be a textile artist.

And I ended up here.

My work now feels just like how I wanted my career as a textile artist to feel… creative and free and like I am living my real life.

And I still make art all the time, but it’s just to help me sort through my own inner process. I don’t focus on finishing pieces or developing creative ideas the way an artist does.

Though a few times over the past 6 years I have been inspired to make custom art for people (paper doll portraits and original art inspiration cards) and I have loved doing that.

And now the next thing is calling – making more art to share. It feels like starting a new career as an artist.

So the last time I felt called towards something new I was shifting through the ashes of my failed art career.

Now I’m working from a place of power, you know? The Creative Dream Incubator is going really well, the Creative Dream Circle is this beautiful thing that is nurturing dreams every day.

It all supports me in this new dream.

It actually feels now like I built myself the foundation I need to get back to that dream.

And it reminds that – always, always, more than anything – you can trust where you dream leads you.

Community. Creativity. Magic.

Journal Parties are free, one-hour creative playdates where we hang out together with our journals and chat. I’ll pick a few journaling prompts to get us started and then we’ll just play together… journaling, chatting, exploring.

Journal parties will happen live online on streaming video. Plus they’ll all be recorded so if you can’t be there live you can journal along with us while you watch the replay.

I’ll host them, and each one will have a special guest (a journaling teacher that I admire) and *everyone* is invited to play with us!

Our next Journal Party is happening on April 24 and our special guest is Jamie Ridler!

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From coaching to workshops, from podcasting to blogging,  creative living expert Jamie Ridler helps women find the confidence and courage to discover and express their creative selves so they can be the star they are.

You can find her at Jamie Ridler Studios.

Jamie is one of the first “coaching friends” I made when I became a creativity coach. She is warm and inspiring and deeply dedicated to supporting creative people in stepping into their dreams.

This is going to be such a great party.

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Last week I wrote about a dream that shook me up and then what I did about it and how terrifying it is to after this new dream.

Everything feels a lot less terrifying now. Over the weekend I felt a lot of things just snap into place.

I mean I am still exploring. But it feels more like exploration and less like stumbling around in the dark.

You know when you’re working on creative projects and suddenly it just clicks? Well I had some clicks where three different creative projects/ideas clicked together. So it feels like everything just opened up.

your dream is waiting for you to come true

That’s a drawing I did this weekend.

I started with a way different drawing of three flowers that I wanted to turn into a repeating pattern, and then kept re-doing it, refining as I went.

It’s like a combination of intuitive art-making with traditional pattern design.

People are often surprised to find out that I have a degree in fashion design, but I do and pattern design was one of my favourite parts.

So working on pattern design now feels like coming back to my past self, but bringing all these resources to it.

Because back when I was pursuing pattern design it was a hard, hard thing to get into. I was working at the best job I could find that allowed me to do some designing with the promise of more but those promises never quite came through.

And, looking back what really surprises me is that I wasn’t designing patterns on my own. I was passionate about this dream but I wasn’t doing it.

I wasn’t designing gorgeous patterns in my spare time because I felt hopeless about this dream.

I didn’t see the path to getting my work out there, so I didn’t take the steps that were in front of me to take.

And the one person who I thought could help, the only person I thought I could rely on for support, my boss at that stupid job, didn’t want to help me, and so he didn’t.

I was 24 then. At 42 I see things much differently.

It’s up to me to do the work FIRST. Had I put my all into drawing all those patterns that were floating in my head back then – my path might have been a lot different.

Today I would never hang my hopes on someone else.

Your dream needs YOU. You have what you need inside you to create the opportunities you need. You don’t have to know how to do the whole thing, you just have to take the steps that are in front of you to take.

So, following the inspiration that has been opening up as I’ve been exploring this dream – I spent the weekend working on some pattern designs.

And it felt like I was coming back to this past-me. And bringing her healing and resources and showing her – hey look we can actually do this now. I have the resources and see the opportunities now.

So there’s this huge healing/blooming thing happening in my heart right now.

And I mean holy hell pattern design is a million times easier now!

Back then I had a home-made light box for tracing and re-drawing. I was so grateful that my mom helped me build it – but it got hot and was cumbersome to use.

Today I use my iPad pro and just add new layers and draw on top.

No uncomfortable lightbox, just snuggled up on my couch with the iPad on my lap.

Which is also a metaphor for how much easier my dreams are for me now that I have the benefit of 20 odd years of taking baby steps along that path.

So I’m at Starbucks this morning, working on the material for How To Grow Your Dreams While Surrounded By Dream Doubters and Negative Nellies.

Not being supported in your dreams is such a delicate thing. Sometimes we project our own fears onto other people because we don’t want to deal with them in ourselves. Sometimes we scare the people who love us when we take risks with our dreams.

Sometimes we wait for our boss to give us the opportunities that we need to create for ourselves.

Sometimes we are just are surrounded by jerks and need to do something about that.

So I am offering this call because of my dream to have this collection of coaching calls on specific topics to that people can just grab the one they need in the moment and get the inspiration/ideas/support they need to move through it.

I want to offer this not just for my people, but for my past self who struggled so much.

Not that I can remove the struggle with my classes and coaching – it’s more like I want to offer these as a way of saying – you are not alone.

It’s an act of healing to create the things I used to need.

I want that healing to ripple out and impact others who want it – but it has to start here, with me.

And it’s so beautiful – how I have been offering these works to my past selves who struggled with their dreams, that this old dream has come back.

And it didn’t just come back – it’s like all the drawing I have been doing for the past year and a half was the perfect warm-up for coming back to pattern design. So it’s like I am just seeing it now but it’s been here a while.

In fact last year I did make some drawings meant to be patterns for things I wanted to create and sell.

But the first round of test products went really badly. And I wasn’t sure what to do so I put it away to focus on things that were going well.

I mean we only have so much time and energy and we can’t do everything at once!

But your true dreams will keep coming back to you, as this one does with me.

And the other thing that is coming out of this process of exploring my dream – I want to blog more. And I have been, as you can see.

So I’ll see you back here.

PS: How To Grow Your Dreams While Surrounded By Dream Doubters and Negative Nellies is happening tomorrow! I hope to “see” you there.

It’s hard to sit down and explore this – I mean who knows what you’ll find, right?

Your dream will grow you. I trust this. And I know I’m ready for it. But I don’t know what any of this means right now, exactly.

So, I dive in with the questions I ask my Circle members to answer every week:

My dream is: to find this new dream

I want it because: well it feels like it wants me, like it’s calling me. But I must want it or I wouldn’t be here so… I want it because I want to keep following my creativity and intuition, I want to keep growing into who I really am.

When I have it I will feel: well I think I will feel more enlivened to have more projects that light me up. I will feel inspired and happy and excited.

So – don’t I feel those ways right now? Well yes, but I also have this feeling like there is room for more.

This feels like I am starting to go in circles!

But going in circles is part of the path, too. Going in circles can wear down the path and gently bring you deeper into it where things start to look different.

And if a circle is only movement I can make then going in circles must be the right way to go.

It’s better than standing still.

I’m also worried that I am doing all of this exploring and it might be for nothing.

Like my new dreams are not going to end up being very exciting. Like they won’t be worth it.

Like what if my “new dreams” are really just to keep doing what I’m doing? More guided journals and colouring books, more decks of cards. I mean those are the kinds of projects that excite me right now.

I have been having so much fun drawing new patterns for my new guided journal and colouring book and seeing how I could use them in a deck of cards too…

What if my new dreams aren’t new? What if I’m looking for something that doesn’t exist?

Well if I am looking then I feel inspired to look and what if that’s enough?

See, circles.

So I’m asking a question that is usually helpful:

What do I think will change in my life when I have this new dream?

I will work more.

Really? That’s the first thought that popped into my mind?! I want to work more? Is that what this is all about?

Because that is simple enough, I can just work more. I can do more coaching circles and create new e-courses and keep going with the guided journal and colouring books.

Just sitting quietly with that.

I want to blog more, I have missed this.

And yeah – I would like to work more. Produce more.

OMG that is so weird. I don’t want to judge my answers because that kills the process of exploration but I also really want to judge these particular answers.

Just sitting quietly with that.

So when I think about the people who really inspire me I am always amazed by how much creative work they produce.

I honour their commitment to their creative practice, which always feels bigger than my commitment to my creative practice.

See I have really resisted “working too much” because I come from a family of workaholics.

So I’ve always seen it as a thing for me to be aware of and to manage.

What if it’s a thing to celebrate?

Geez this is not where I was expecting this circle to lead me to. But I am going to put this down for today and let this settle a bit.

So I’m still kind of in a haze from yesterday’s dream.

I mean it feels like one of those big dreams that came to guide me and it will impact me for some time.

I’ve missed having these kinds of dreams. I used to have them more often when my dreams felt further away. Like my sleep-dreams wanted to help me find my real-dreams.

There is a lot of magic in going after a dream and going from not-having to having. Like when I graduated from University with all these creative dreams and no clue how to make them happen and a shitty job that barely paid the bills.

And then when you’re more a place of living with a lot of your dreams, going after new dreams real can feel less dramatic and exciting.  Like where I am now.

After I’d been doing the Creative Dream Incubator full time for a few years, I started wanting to shift more of my business to the Creative Dream Circle.

At that time, the Circle was called Advanced Creative Badassery and was only available to people to had already taken classes with me.

It’s much easier to sell individual classes than a year-long membership. And it’s easier to make more money selling more classes to the same people, than offering them all for one price.

But making a dream real – from the inside out – involves so much inner and outer work I didn’t want to offer small pieces of the solution. I wanted to put it all together and then create a community of people doing the work together.

So I knew I wasn’t doing this because this was the easiest way for me to make a living. I was doing it because it felt true – it was how my work wanted to grow.

And even though it was really hard sometimes – I had so much love and passion for growing the Circle into something stable.

That was a huge dream and it wasn’t easy to get it to where it is now. But for the past few years, the Creative Dream Circle has been stable.

Stable as in – I don’t feel like I am working on growing it.  I am taking care of it and keeping it thriving but that takes a really different, much less intense, kind of energy to do.

So I’m in a good place with my work and that feels amazing.

And I don’t want to just stay here. I mean I’m 43 I have lots of good years left still!

But, and this is part of why the 6-7-8 figure online biz cult has been on my mind lately, I don’t want to take this and make it bigger. Which is why I resent all these messages I feel bombarded with about how this is the only way to grow.

The Creative Dream Circle is thriving and beautiful. I am in LOVE with it. I am happy with the income I get for the time and energy I put in.

Everything feels good exactly how it is.

Not everything needs to scale.

So that reminds me of the World Domination Summit which I went to in like 2012 or 2013. It was the first year that it was 1,000 people instead of 500.

And I remember Danielle LaPorte spoke and addressed how some people were concerned that the event would lose some of the magic by growing like that and she said “Love scales”.

And I’m sure she believed it. I don’t know her, but it seems like empire-building is a part of her truth and that growing a larger business is a part of how she lives her truth.

I just don’t think everyone needs to grow bigger in order to shine brighter, which is the message we are getting online right now.

Anyway, when she said that, “Love scales” I was like WTF?

Because I was sitting there totally overwhelmed by the crowds and wishing for something smaller where I would feel more comfortable.

Love didn’t scale for me in that way.

Which didn’t mean that the World Domination Summit should stay small because that’s my preference, of course. It doesn’t mean they sold out or did anything wrong at all.

It means that I get to choose to attend smaller events. I can also choose to grow smaller things.

Frankly I think that once you’ve got a thing, focusing on growing it bigger bigger bigger is boring.

Maybe that’s just a part of my own quiet nature.

Like – one of the big perks of self-employment for me is that I can go do things on “off times”. Grocery shopping, going to the park – anything where there are lots of people, I do on the off times when there are not a lot of other people there.

So it would be really weird for me to go against my nature and want to turn my business into something big and loud.

And I think we can be more creative about how we live with and grow our dreams.

And that’s what my dream the other night was pushing me towards.

Take all that energy and drama  – being vulnerable, taking risks, trying new things – to finding my next things.

Because I’m not as hungry as I used to be – that’s for sure. And I am not desperate to get out of my day job.

And I’m doing a lot of quiet experimenting on my own and not sharing it. In that dream, the really intense part that wouldn’t leave me was that fear of sharing my shaky experiments with others.

I used to do that with my dreams. Because I was so excited about them and wanted to put them out into the world.

I haven’t been doing that lately. I’m holding my dreams closer.

So – and this feels so weird to admit – I have to work at being just as excited and passionate about my new dreams.

Right now I have so many ideas swirling around me. I’m experimenting and exploring and really unsure about which path(s) I want to pursue.

And I don’t really want to share anything until I know where I’m going with it.

And my dream is saying: NO. Those first tentative steps need to be shared.

I mean – do not misread me OMG this is not a general rule that everyone should do this!

A lot of dreams need safe, sheltered, quiet space to grow.

But as a teacher, I think the rules are different for me. I think teachers are only as effective to the degree to which they walk their talk.

Well, I have been WALKING my talk I just haven’t been talking about it. Honestly – I don’t want to appear flaky by trying a bunch of things and not necessarily going anywhere with them.

I mean one of my strengths as a teacher is that I am grounded and stable and you can count on me to do what I say I will do.

But another one of my strengths as a teacher is sharing my own stories – helping people feel less alone in those places where they stumble with their dreams.

And this isn’t so complicated, I mean I can share those stories while saying “I am experimenting with this – I’m not making a promise about this”.

So. That’s where I am today: grateful for being shock up by this dream.

(This is my cat Starfish taking a nap)

I’m wandering around this morning in the fog of a dream that won’t let me go.

The dream:

I was at an intensive art immersion.  Four weeks living and breathing and working our art, with weekends off.

At the end of each weekend my husband would make me this big, yummy, homemade pizza on a cookie sheet which I would carry around with me all the way to my room.

The setting looked exactly like the resort I went to in Cancun this past winter, but those gorgeous open spaces (rooms with no walls, protected by wooden screens above and jungle around) which were bars in the resort were painting studios in my dream.

And we were staying in these little villas which we got to through winding walks through the jungle.

So I had my homemade pizza and felt supported and nourished. I was surrounded by beauty and lots of space and everything I needed to make art.

I was painting every day.

But I was painting more of the same thing I always paint.

And at the end of two weeks there, I was remembering the interview process for getting into this intensive. They were asking what I wanted to accomplish here and I said I wanted to find the new work that was calling me.

And yet here I was – painting more of the same.

I sat with that, and I knew… I KNEW what I wanted to be painting. I wanted to paint a horse.

But like a different kind of horse.

I mean I needed to experiment and try stuff.

But I couldn’t. I was frozen.

I couldn’t take a risk in front of all of these people! I had to keep doing what I knew would produce good work because people were watching.

I just sat there and cried.

I felt how badly I wanted to take a creative risk. I felt how much money and effort had been put into me getting to this intensive. How important it felt that I did take a risk.

And I just felt frozen. So I kept crying – it was all I could do.


So now it’s morning, I’m awake, the dream is over but I can’t shake it.

And I can’t shake the questions:

What is this new work that is calling me?

Because it feels different. Like not the new projects and I ideas I have for the Creative Dream Incubator but something different.

Where am I holding back out of fear of letting my risks/attempts/experiments be seen?

I’m not sure.

But I am starting by drawing a horse.

It’s weird – I mean I don’t know what horse features really look like but I just played around with it. I’m drawing it as a symbol of my commitment to my creative process and to following inspiration and intuition wherever they lead.

I’ll be married in two weeks.

What’s kind of funny is that I loved being single so much I didn’t pay any attention to the benefits of being married.

I mean I saw so many people, women especially, dull their dreams in order to have happy home lives with their hubbies and I wasn’t ever interested in that.

I learned how to support myself financially with my creative work. And I’ve always just done all of the cleaning and cooking and laundry and never really thought about what it would mean to share these tasks.

So now here I am in a place where I am sharing the bills and the work. My life just got easier.

And I feel as free as ever to pursue my creative dreams.

So it makes sense that new dreams are emerging now.

And new dreams are always scary… risk-taking and awkward first steps and not-knowing and practically drowning in questions with no answers in sight.

It’s exhilarating too, to follow your creative impulse.

I don’t know where this is leading me to, but I wanted to share this here as some kind of marker on the path.

I am setting out to find the new work that is calling me.

How To Grow Your Dreams When You’re surrounded by Dream Doubters and Negative Nellies

You want the people closest to you to support you in pursuing your dreams.

But what if they don’t?

It’s one of those things that a lot of dreamers feel alone in – but it’s actually really common.

Personally, I have experienced a lack of support as “external evidence” of all the things my inner critic was saying – I’m not good enough, I’m not ready, it will never happen anyway so why bother?

It’s not fun!

It can be really easy to let it derail you from your dreams – like every time you try to step towards your dreams you end up stepping into all these hurt feelings so why bother?

But that’s not what you want.

You want to be free to live in a way that feels true for you, which includes having space to pursue your dreams.

You know how I always say that facing the obstacles will grow you?

This is definitely one of those times.

This lack of support can feel like an impossible situation but it’s not impossible and working through it will grow you.

It will grow your faith in yourself and your determination to make your dream real.

It will show you just how capable you are to do the things that need to be done to give your dream some space to grow.

If you’re in this situation there are a few things you can do that will help.

One way to approach this is to just let your hurt feelings stew and marinate and turn into resentment and anger until you can just blow up at the person and then go after your dreams in a cloud of anger and “I’ll show you” energy.

Not super effective but for some people that is the only option.

What I would suggest is to take a gentler and more direct approach – because the person who is not being supportive of you didn’t just decide to be a jerk about your dream for no reason.

Maybe they’re afraid to see you take a risk. Maybe they don’t want you to get hurt. Maybe they’re embarrassed about your dream because they’re embarrassed about their dream.

Maybe they’re so uncomfortable about their own dreams that they don’t want to face that discomfort so they don’t want to talk about dreams. Maybe they just don’t want things to change.

There are a lot of reasons why people have a hard time supporting other people in going after their dreams.

So treat it gently. Be mindful that this person’s lack of support probably stems from their own hurt/scared places inside of them.

AND be mindful of the fact that you get to choose to pursue your dreams. No one can actually stop you from that.

So get clear with yourself about what you are and are not willing to compromise on.

I mean when I say that you get to choose to pursue your dreams, I’m not encouraging you to abandon your children to run off to Vegas to become a showgirl.

I’m saying there’s a way to make some space in your life for the sparkle and magic that you crave.

And then you can tend to the magic and sparkle while you tend to the other parts of your life as well.

And then grow it all into something that feels more true to you.

That’s what all dreams are at their core – your soul calling you towards your truth.

You can trust your dream. Moving towards your truth is not going to ruin your life-  even though some of the people closest to you may be afraid of exactly that.

So once you’ve spent some time deciding where you are and are not willing to compromise – well you might not have a problem anymore.

I mean it really depends on what your specific situation is.

Once you’ve spent some time thinking about where you are and are not willing to compromise, you might realise that you just need to start spending 15 minutes a day writing your manuscript and that it doesn’t matter if this person has a negative attitude about it.

Or you might need to hide certain things from certain people. Or learn about energy work to visualize “deflecting” their less-than-helpful comments about your dream so they can’t get you down.

You may need to just find the determination to pursue your dreams regardless of a lack of support. (Because your dream needs you, it doesn’t need anyone else)

Or you may need to work out a deal with this person to start making some small changes in your life.

Sometimes exploring what you are and are not willing to compromise on leads to you needing to have a discussion with the person who is not being supportive about how you feel and what you need.

Whatever happens, if you keep exploring you’re going to find a way to work this out so you can start growing your dream.

I know it’s hard. But no matter who isn’t supporting you or how you feel about it – you can’t let it stop you.

When I started doing my creativity workshops my co-workers would laugh at me when I talked about it at work.

When I decided to quit that job and pursue the Creative Dream Incubator full time, my parents wished I would reconsider because they wanted me to be safe and have enough money to take care of myself.

It’s normal for the people around you to not support your dreams, especially in the beginning.

This is just one of those things you’re going to have to overcome on the way to making your dream real.

Your dream is YOURS. Like – it picked you for a reason. It showed itself to you. It didn’t show itself to your parents, spouse, friends, co-workers and neighbours.

They just can’t see it yet – and that doesn’t mean anything about how viable your dream actually is.

Unfortunately a lack of support is one of those things that almost everyone has to overcome – which is also fortunate because it means I have a lot of experience helping people overcome it!

So let’s explore this together in more depth:

Creative Dream Coaching Circle: How To Grow Your Dreams When You’re surrounded by Dream Doubters and Negative Nellies

The call is happening live online on Tuesday, April 18 at 1:00 pm (Central, North America)

Yes it will be recorded and you can even email me your questions ahead of time and listen to my answers in the recording.

Community. Advice. Ideas. Healing. Support. Cheering. Creative Dream Super-Fuel.

Gather with me, and a group of creative kindred spirits, and we’ll work on making our dreams real together.

You’ll get honest advice and feedback about what you need to be doing to make your dreams really happen.

And space to be real about how hard it is sometimes, and how amazing it is at other times.

It’s the kind of supportive creative community we all wish we had in our everyday lives.

I know I over-use this word, but there isn’t another way to say it: Creative Dream Coaching Circles are *magic*


We meet online via live, streaming video. You can type your questions to me and I’ll answer right there on the spot or you can come on the line we can chat (you will need a webcam for that option).

Each coaching circle has a specific topic. I’ll start by sharing some thoughts and ideas and then we’ll have lots of time for coaching, questions and exploring together.

Can’t make it to the live event? No problem!

All coaching circles will be recorded and you can even email me your questions ahead of time and listen to my answers in the recording.

The cost: Just $25 US a call (or free, for Creative Dream Circle members)

Sign up for this callOr

Find out more about the Circle

Sign up here or find our more about the Creative Dream Circle.

The short story is that I am raising the cost of annual membership in the Creative Dream Circle (to $199 US per year, from $147).

And I am creating a new shorter membership at a lower price ($99 for three months, with the option of upgrading to a full year for $130 at the end of the three months).

This shorter membership can be used as a payment plan for joining for the full year or as a chance to dip in, take a few classes and get a dream boost without committing to a full year.

The annual price goes up to $199 on April 28. The shorter membership is available starting today.

(For everyone who has already joined or will join at the $147 rate – your annual membership fee stays at $147 for as long as you are a member.)

And the cost of individual Creative Dream Coaching Circles will go from $25 to $30 on April 28.

I do feel compelled to say more about this because, as I’ve been blogging about lately,  I think transparency and vulnerability are very needed in this line of work.

But I’m not entirely sure about what to say here.

I know my prices are on the lower end of the scale for this kind of work. And this is not a big price increase, but I still spent a lot of time on this decision.

It’s not because I doubt my worth or the value of the classes and resources in the Creative Dream Circle.

My “big dream” is to live in a way that lights me up and do work that lights me up. To just me as true to myself as I can be.

And raising the price has felt true for some time, but I have not known how to do it – like what to raise it to or when to raise it.

I mean – price increases are a part of being in business. Costs do go up over time. But big, hype-y price increases are a tool of the online business sleaze that I don’t want to be a part of.

So I’ve been spending a lot of time connecting with the heart and soul of the Creative Dream Circle and it’s purpose for being a support system for growing dreams. And asking the questions and waiting for the answers.

Obviously, (I hope!) my aim is not to just charge as much as I think I can get away with. My aim is congruence – to find the pricing structure that felt true.

I take my job as the caretaker of the Creative Dream Circle very seriously – not just as in participating and creating content – but keeping an eye on the bigger picture. The back-end systems. The software.

This is a place where magic grows every day and I want to keep it happy and sustainable – occasional price increases are just one part of all of that.

I am switching to this new system today – so I can start offering the shorter memberships today.

The heart and soul of the Creative Dream Circle is so excited about the new shorter memberships for people who don’t want to join for a full year but still want to get a “dream boost”.

But I know at any given time people are thinking about joining the Creative Dream Circle and I wanted to give those people lots of time to join at the current price.

I don’t want to pressure anyone into joining just because the price is changing!

I want you to join because you’re ready to join and the timing is right and you’re excited to take some steps towards your dream, you know? At $199 it’s still a tremendous value.

So until April 28 I’ll still offer the $147/year price.

Check it out here.

So I’m still not doing the Daily Dream Journal Videos.

But I am journaling every day and sharing some of my journaling pics and stories on Instagram as I was all along.

I mean I had a lot of fun making those videos and I LOVE the idea of sharing a daily video because of how that encourages you to think of journaling, inner work and dream-growing as a daily pratice.

But I am a very introverted person and making public videos takes quite a lot of energy for me.

So I am going to try a weekly video – I can share more than one journal page in each video and that just makes it easier for me to keep up with the admin tasks of getting the videos ready for sharing plus it feels more sustainable.

Hoping to start next week!

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